(Rough, rough Draft) Life doesn’t come with an instruction book even though you deserve one. You have to write your own. Many people spend most of their lives looking for ones that are already written. But they are no perfect matches. Each person is unique. You might try on several different lifestyles that are recommended to you or that you admire, but you usually never find one that fits perfectly.
Clothes used to be tailored or created with the help of a dressmaker. I remember patterns that came with places where you might make the pattern smaller or larger. Some people even had a dress form that could be adjusted and a dress could be fitted over it to create a perfect fit.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the style of life that you pick could be adjusted that way? I found it difficult to find my place as a psychologist when I was around other psychologists in my training that were quite different from me. Not only was it hard for me to model myself after them as a psychologist but also these model psychologists ended up being quite critical of me and I had difficulty making myself like them.
If I did find a psychologist or psychiatrist or other mental health practitioner that I did want to model myself after, I often was too hard on myself. I could not understand that my talents were only emerging and I was judging myself by professionals that were much further along in their professional careers. I tried really hard and basically succeeded but I didn’t really learn who I was and I continued to do this on into my professional life. I really didn’t know who I was and because of
I tried really hard and basically succeeded, but I didn’t really learn who I was and I continued to do this on into my professional life. Because of this, I had trouble succeeding and meeting other people’s expectations. I continued to work really hard and felt that I was just not ever going to be a success.
Eventually, I got into the areas of self-help and spirituality and read whatever I could find about out them and attended workshops in these areas when I could find them. Again I felt that I wasn’t making progress in these areas either even though they fascinated me. I didn’t know it at the time that these things were a personal experience and different for each person involved.
It wasn’t until I approached the areas of different types of learning that I found out that I was a different type of thinker. I am a creative type of person who has to do something first. I can’t tell you what I am going to do before I do it. I often don’t know what I am going to do before I have done it. I can explain what I have done and organize what I did after the fact instead of before the fact.
I am left-handed and am right-brained instead of left brained. I find it easier to do whatever it is that I am going to do and then answer questions about what I did and how and why I did it. For example, I am very good at interviewing people and getting information out of them; but the best way to show other people what I do when I am interviewing is to do it behind a one-way mirror and answer the audience’s questions afterward.
Gee, I wish I had known this about myself much earlier in life and had not passed up opportunities to develop myself in areas where I could have been quite creative if I had continued to develop my talents. A couple of areas are hypnosis, interpretation of drawings and the use of drawing in children’s therapy. I also found out that I can sing quite well if I don’t feel self-conscious and I sing songs interpretively that just seem to have stuck in my head without an accompanist. (I guess I can’t pick a key and I haven’t found an accompanist that can shadow me.) I was never able to take voice lessons although I had sung in
I have now found out that I can sing quite well if I don’t feel self-conscious and I sing songs interpretively that just seem to have stuck in my memory without an accompanist. (I guess I can’t pick a key and I haven’t found an accompanist that can shadow me.)
I was never able to take voice lessons although I had sung in choirs at school and in church. I now think that might have made me worse instead of better. I found that when I was in college that the voice majors were all quite technically accomplished and that I couldn’t compete with them and do what they did. Now I do my own thing and I can do it quite well if I am not afraid to be me.