Do you stand up for yourself especially when it means going it alone. Unconditional love can be hard to find. And when you give unconditional love, you may not get it back. Risky isn’t it? Condemnation comes more easily than acceptance. Do you want to hurt someone before they can hurt you? Babies and puppies and kittens can be very trusting and can give their affection without realizing that they might get hurt by doing it. Back in the teenage years and later as a young adult, a person may not have wanted to make the first move when dating for fear of being rejected. Rejection can be a very dangerous thing if you are small. Who can you depend on to meet the needs that you can’t yet meet for yourself? Do you know at that age that the rejection most likely won’t last and you will be secure again? What stock of experiences stored in his or her memory does a child have to depend on to be sure that he or she is will be safe and will be accepted and cared for once again. Love withdrawal because of this is a dangerous form of discipline. It is the act that is disliked not the person but the child doesn’t know that.
When a child starts having a peer group, that is another place where a child can suffer from rejection. Child often learn to quickly gang up on another child and by rejecting that child, make his or
herself feel more secure. Isn’t being ostracized or shunned often the worse thing that can happen to a person. How often do we look around at the people in the group that we are in to determine what is the safe thing to do or say? For example which is safest? being a Christian or being a Muslim or for being for abortion versus being against it. Isn’t it often that the person that says what other people are afraid to say is the person that is doing the right thing. Worse yet you can be killed by standing out from a crowd in this way and such uncalled for slaughter is often a satisfactory way of warding off dissent.
Sometimes aren’t animals more loyal and self-sacrificing than humans? In this case which one the animal or the human is more moral? Humans can be self sacrificing and share all they have with others in their group. Giving can be more satisfying than receiving. I have a wonderful spiritual friend who just bubbled over when it was suggested to her that the most fun in the world would be to be able to give people something they really wanted and couldn’t ordinarily have.
Even some murderers and many other wrong doers have some sort of a conscience and this is often what trips them up and gets them caught. There are, however, people out there often called psychopaths or sociopaths who do not even have a remnant of a conscience and can get away with doing horrendous things because there they have no conscience. Role models are important in the building of a conscience. If somebody does something for you that they don’t have to do and is even self-sacrificing, you may want to imitate them because when they behave this way they make you feel good.
Life for me is making a closer and closer approximation to a person who believes that others men are his or her brothers and sisters and that certain “truths” are worth standing up for and fighting for. I know when I am not living up to this standard and I believe I have been purposely put on earth to do this. Current studies of animal behavior also demonstrate loving and caring behavior in such nonhuman animals as dolphins and elephants as well. Here I stand, I can not do otherwise (Martin Luther).