(No pictures were used in the context of this discussion of whether or not child abuse is actually rape; because any pictures used of children might be considered sexualized.)
In thinking about Child Sexual Abuse , I realized that we hardly ever talk about it as childhood rape. When a man has anal sex with a boy, what is he really doing? It surely is rape. When a man manipulates a girl’s sexual parts into to have an orgasm, is this really rape? When a woman initiates intercourse with a boy or adolescent male, isn’t she raping him? Having a girl touch her sexual parts (whether her own or the girl’s) in order to achieve sexual excitement and/or orgasm, do we consider that rape of a child by a woman.
For purposes of discussion here is the new FBI definition of rape: (https://www.fbi.gov/…/new-rape–definitio…) The new FBI Summary definition of Rape is: “Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” But how about rape by proxy?
My definition of rape for the purpose of this discussion consists of using an innocent victim in order to achieve orgasm or high levels of sexual arousal. If the child’s sexual feelings are aroused and/or the child actually comes to orgasm, the child is not considered old enough to give consent. Also, what adds to the heinousness of this behavior is that it is kept secret and hidden to avoid detection and create undeserved guilt in the child or adolescent. The latter is often why the victim often suffers in silence. Also, does the child or adolescent know what he or she is actually doing or that he or she is not responsible for this illicit behavior?
Could child pornography also be considered as rape by proxy? The offender self-stimulates himself or herself to orgasm using what is essentially an unwilling victim. When we don’t call it rape, we make it seem less harmful. It involves an adult using a child to come to orgasm without his or her consent. How are the children treated when these pictures are taken? If the children are encouraged to see the filming as a game, what happens when the children learn what they were used for?