If you don’t grow up in childhood, you have a lot of work left to do in adulthood. It is never to late to grow up. Actually it is sometimes better to do your growing up in adulthood because you will have learned more over time and can make your own decisions based on several different points of view acquired over time and with the perspective as an adult.
Some times people have been force fed as what to what to do and not do as children or not fed at all and this can lead to poor and often premature decision-making as a young adult or even teenager.
For example, what did you know about dating and who to trust in the dating scene. Were you glad just to get a date and didn’t think much about who the person was you chose to go out with?
If you are not introduced to the dating scene at the same time that other teenagers are going through it, you might be too naive. If you are introduced to the dating scene too early because you have matured early and/or have more access to older teenagers, you can also make big mistakes.
Older teenagers might not be reliable sources for information on what to do and what not to do when dating or a naive teenager might bypass this stage altogether and not take precautions when accepting a date or meeting a new person somewhere.
Worse comes to worse, you might decide that you are lucky to get anyone to date you and worse yet marry you. You might not know the requirements of a good husband or wife. Worse yet you can’t take someone who knows what to watch out for on a date with you. Even if you did, they might be too busy making-out to look out for you and your date. I once got a ride home from college and the couple in the front seat paid more attention to each other than they did to driving. This was not a safe situation to be in.
Also it is better to be truthful than secretive when educationing a teenager or older child about marriage, dating, and sex. Also teenagers who haven’t matured yet can be very secretive and sneaky when it comes to not obeying their parents’ guidelines for going out with the opposite sex.
Not knowing or understanding what to look out for and why when dating (especially when meeting someone you don’t know, can lead to very bad decisions resulting in some very negative consequences like date rape or being taken advantage of financially. Parents being too secretative about what to expect when interacting with the opposite sex can lead to bad mistakes like being glad you have been asked out or having had a request for a date accepted that you are not at all discriminating. This can come from a sense of low self-worth.