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Monthly Archives: January 2014

Revenge Often Only Hurts the Victim

Stop sign

Stop sign (Photo credits: roadtrafficsigns.com)

Lately I have been avoiding a lot of accidents and giving other people a break rather than having a well-justified case of road rage.

For example, I made a left turn  on to a main street and there was a box truck backing out on to the street into the lane in front of me.  I had no idea what was going on so I stopped and waited to see what the driver was going to do.  He was trying to back his truck into the service station on that side of the street.  I guess I could have kept going but I didn’t.  The accident would have been his fault because he would have been backing into me.  Would it have been worth an accident to prove I was right and he was wrong?

All kinds of crazy things have been happening to me lately on the road.  A car came up to a stop sign on a side road (I had the right of way as I did not have to stop for the side road.), stopped and pulled out in front of me.  I could have hit him and it would have been his fault.  Would it have been worth it.

I guess this is what some people call driving defensively.  I watch out for what unexpected thing another driver might do.  I call it driving safely.  How bad do I have to assert myself and prove that the another driver is a bad driver and make him or her pay for it.  It is inconvenient, yes; smart, no.

 

 

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It Is All There

It is all there.  All you have to do is find it.  As we explore our world, we find out what we need to know.   The answer is within.

We are born with all the equipment we need to find out what we need to know.  But what are we told?  We are told, “Curiosity killed the cat.”  From birth, we are encouraged to accept the status quo.  We often discover that asking questions disturbs and flustrates our parents.

We are told that we should not question authority and are given standards to follow that our parents were usually taught when they were children.  “Why should you do it?  Because I told you so,” our parents tell us.

Lies My Parents Told Me

Lies My Parents Told Me (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We are born with many features that help us discover the world and make sense of it.  We rapidly master this and are soon able to make our own way in the world.  Is it true that we all come up with the same answers when we explore the world ourselves?  Of course not.

Certain experiences can lead us in the wrong direction.  Born to a pattern of emotional and/or physical abuse, people learn not to trust the world.  They are given the wrong impression of themselves.  They may think that they deserve to be treated this way or that.

This world and its existence defies a simple explanation.   Depending on a person’s ability to comprehend abstract concepts, to view things from different perspectives, and to develop a complex understanding of existence, a person may or not be able to deal with life without angst.

However, angst can be a motivating force.  Because of the experience of angst a person may not be able to live happily in the world as they understand it to be.  This may cause them to change their minds and conceive of the world, its existence, and its meaning in a different way.

Pardon me, I don’t mean that everything or anything that your parents have told you is a lie.  But at some point you may come to the conclusion for yourself that some or all of what they told you was right.

 

 

 

 

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Ego Versus Intuition, Who Do You Trust?

11478115084_52613dd791_zYour ego versus your intuition?  Who do you trust?  Have you been trained to do what your ego says.  Do you think that your ego is a reliable part of you that can tell you what to do when you have a decision to make.  Freud thought of the ego as the rational, practical part of the mind that referred between the Libido (your intuition?) and the Superego (your conscience?) and was the voice of commonsense.

What if your ego was biased towards getting you to do what other people wanted you to do so that you would help them get their own (not your) needs met?  What if the decisions it made were not in your own best interests?  What if that still small voice known as intuition that you often ignored as having no basis in reality were true.  How many times have you said to yourself, “If I just had listened to myself, I would not have made that mistake?”

We are born with that still small voice.  It pays attention to those things we often ignore.  They can give us premonitions of what is to come.  We have the potential of being able to sense almost anything but in order to focus, we must magnify some sensory experiences and pay no attention to others.  When an older person says something but their tone of voice belies what they are saying,  we are encouraged to take their word for it and to dampen down any misgivings that we might have.  Since they are an adults and we have been taught to respect them, we are not supposed to question their motives; but to take them at face value.

We are taught to disable our own “shit” detectors so as not to make other people uncomfortable.  What about us?  Is this protecting us from harm?

 

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Those Pesky Little Noises You Make

loud-noisesThose little noises you make.  Which kind are the worst?  I have been getting in trouble lately.  I have been making like sounds of contentment.  They are a sign that I am peaceful and happy at that moment.  My spouse doesn’t like these sounds that I make at these times and comments disapprovingly upon them when I make them..  I know you can get into trouble for being grumpy but for God’s sake getting into trouble for making little satisfied noses??  Sometimes I will even hum as I do something I like.  Oh, woe is me.  How easily I can get into trouble without even trying.

Remember the Big, Bad, wolf who huffed and he puffed and blew the little pig’s house in?  That’s my spouse whenever he is asked to do a physical task that requires the merest of physical effort.  Also he sighs deeply as if he has been asked to do the most imposing task in the world.  How can his negative sounds be more acceptable than my positive sounds?

Yes, I do make some negative sounds occasionally especially when in unexpected severe pain.  But according to my husband, I must bear these “white hot” excruciating nerve pains silently and God forbid that I ever would call upon the name of God or Jesus to help me or worse yet, remember and murmur some some once well-used cuss word from my past.

When did it become acceptable to criticize others to stop them from doing something that is often innoxious and possibly even harmless.  Why are we so fearful of someone else believing or doing something that we don’t believe in or would do.  If you deer hunt or crochet, does that mean that I have to do it?  Why do we have to fight so hard for our personal rights to do or believe in anything?  Does it protect my right to do or believe something to make everyone else act or believe the way I do?

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Maybe You Should Watch What You Say Or Your Advice Is Telling On You

adviceduckSometimes the most revealing thing about yourself that you can do is offer somebody else advice.  Maybe what you are telling another person is what you need to hear yourself.

“Take good care of yourself.  You belong to me.”  What does this line from a song which you might sing to a loved one tell you about how you should treat yourself?

Have you ever been told, “You talk too much,” by someone who talks too much himself.

How many times has a snorer complained to a bed partner about his or her snoring?

“Don’t worry, be happy.”  Do you, when you say this someone, wish that the other person would quit telling you about their troubles and concerns all the time?  Have you ever done the latter but not the former.

I also read recently that all our knowledge is within us. But we just need to have it come out in some way that we can recognize it.

The human brain is a marvelous organ.  It can learn; it can unlearn; it can open up new areas that give you new possible abilities.  It seemingly never stops changing.  True you are not as flexible when you get older as you were when you were younger and if you suffer some disease or damage to the brain it might interfere with its ability to adjust to new situations.  Each is unique and molded by nature and nurture.

We often criticize and blame others because we do not want to be responsible for our own behavior and/or we envy others or are jealous of what they have acquired.  We often focus so hard on what others do that we don’t focus on what we can do. Just because some skill is popular and or rewarded unrealistically monetarily doesn’t mean your skills and latent abilities are useless and/or can hamper you from ever being a success.

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