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Children Are Our Most Precious Resource! Why Do We Waste Them?

Why do we neglect the development of our children?  Why do we do things to children starting as early as conception that will cause harm to them and why do we neglect children in ways that will lead to problems later on.  Then later on in their lives why do we wonder what happened to our children that caused them so much irreparable harm in their development?  After a teenager has killed 10 people in a high school shooting it is too late to do something about it.  Long-term neglect is impossible to completely reverse.

Babies need love, support, and respect.  This is best done before birth.  Do we teach future parents that conceiving a child is a tremendous responsibility?  Most of the time, “no”.  It can be perceived as a burden and a failure of planning and contraception usually after the fact.  The parents themselves could have been perceived as burdens and responsibilities at their conceptions.

Once you have accidentally unplugged the refrigerator and the food is all spoiled and has to be thrown out; you can’t change what happened.  The same is true with a teenage school shooter.  Not only have the children who have survived been left, wounded, and/or permanently scarred, but also what can we do about it now.  We know how much of a problem post-traumatic syndrome is with soldiers who have seen and done horrible things on the battlefield.

Respect for life has to be taught early not only by the way the child is treated him or herself but also by what is taught in words and actions by the caregiver.  Such teaching can never be started too early; but who wants to do this?  Who has been taught themselves how to do this or has received this type of care and attention as children themselves?

By the time children reach school, it can be too late.  Other students can easily identify these type of problem children.  If you don’t think so, ask a first grader who are the problem children in their class if they are not one of them.  Time invested in providing this type of support and instruction early on is not wasted.  There are many teachable moments.  Children often bring up the subject themselves.  The learning process should be individualized if possible.  No two children are alike.  Also, the child involved may not be very similar to the adult doing the teaching.

“Let me see here,”

When I read a book to a toddler or toddlers, I individualize my approach and pay attention to the attention spans of the children involved.  A child is not an adult and should not be expected to act like one initially.  Also, there might be conflict over who gets to do what; and one of the first things an adult might teach a toddler is how to take turns and share.  Finally don’t be surprised if you don’t finish the book or the child gets up and leaves before the book is finished.  Over time you can establish limits and rules but not so much so that it makes the activity a drag.

“Go away kid you bother me” is not the way a kid should be brought up.  This is one reason why both parents and other relatives should be involved with the children in their family.  Children are not a thing that belongs to the parent but a responsibility to society that parents take on when they consider conceiving a child.

It is problematic when adults consider how to solve these problems from an adult point of view.  Children are not adults and children cannot be expected to behave and think like adults especially when they are young or have not been taught or the things that adults have.  For example, infants like to pee or poop into a fresh diaper after the removal of one that they have already used this way.  It can be exasperating and frustrating to the adult who does not know this.

When Is Reassurance Necessary?

No, wonder the rich in the Victorian era had nurseries and nannies for their children and only saw them when they were well-fed, had been cleaned up, and were in nice clothes after they had had a nap.  Mothers then often employed wet nurses who had babies of their own to feed their babies so they didn’t have to breastfeed them themselves.

If you don’t start something right, how can you expect something to end right.

 

Good and Evil Revisited, Part II

Evil does not obey laws, only the Good do.

Recent visits to the book of Daniel (see Chp. 6), one of the Old Testament books of the Bible, and following the Mueller investigation of the Trump campaign have convinced me that following the letter of the law while common for those who are basically good is also a tool of Evil.  Evil persons use it as a trap for Good persons.  Currently, a new CIA director is being considered who follows the letter of the law even when it involved the torturing of terrorists after 911 which killed thousands of American citizens.  It is being used to stop the approval of this well-qualified candidate who followed the law at that time as part of her job and it promoted Good over Evil.

Daniel in the Bible was worshiping his God openly three times a day when evil persons who disliked him and what he stood for got the current king who liked and had promoted Daniel to declare that he, himself, the king only should be worshiped for the next month.  Helplessly the king had to order that Daniel be thrown in the lion’s den for worshiping his God, not the king.

Thus the law is often used by Evil to trip up the Good.  Law is seen by the Evil as a chance to manipulate things so that they can come out ahead and acquire, wealth, power, fame, and triumph over the Good.  Consider the uranium deal that got promoted and passed while  Hillary Clinton was secretary of state and how money got moved around so that the Clintons and their foundation benefited from the deal.  It put our nuclear defense system and our nuclear medicine resources in jeopardy.

For the Good, it is often required that they not only obey existing laws but also sometimes even higher laws required to perpetuate Good which are not contained in the letter of the law.  Currently, not criticizing others and/or coveting the wealth, fame, power, and possessions that they may have acquired could be such a higher law for the Good. Doing this wastes time that could be spent doing better things, makes one unhappy, encourages a negative attitude, and focuses a person’s sights on useless things that usually only eventually make one angry or resentful.

The above is a hard thing to do with modern-day advertising and with what the media focuses on in their reporting.  Truly good people are ignored, those who focus on the more important things in life are ignored such as good deeds, happiness, sharing what we have with others, and being a source of  “light” and “love” in the world.  How useful really is gold (you can’t eat it, breath it, or use it for shelter unless you have a lot of it).  How useful is fame?  It is often fleeting.  Think of Kanye West who admitted he voted for Trump and many people stopped listening to his rap.

Even people in power, which can give them access to almost everything, hold their grasp on power until there is some kind of a coup overthrowing their rule.  God, the force of good in the Old Testament, showed how easy this was for Him to do.  Regime after regime fell there which is backed up by history.  As God predicted in the Old Testament of the Bible through prophets, visions, and proclamations made during actual appearances there, that many of the governments there would go in and out of power even when they felt assured that they would stay in power. What a precarious position that can be.

What would you rather do?  It is not easy to be Good; but what profits Evil?