Lately I have been “spouting off” in my dreams saying the things that I don’t? dare to say in real life. I really let other people have it when in my dreams I see them doing something that I see as wrong. I guess it helps to get it off my chest that way; but why do I not say these things as often when I am awake.
This of course may not be popular since the advent of women’s lib, but one thing seems to be true to me and that is that women often let men think that they support the mens’ opinions because they don’t want to argue because men often appear to think that there is only one right opinion and it is theirs and won’t agree with women because that is giving in and they don’t want to be be seen as losing. Women are often peacemakers in families and agree so as to not disagree and start a fight. Who is more often passive aggressive, women or men doing what they want to do but making the other person think that it was their idea and that doing it that way will be good for them
How many wars would we have if women had their way? How many wars are caused by people, often men, feeling justified in hurting, even killing others, because they don’t or will not believe what they do. They don’t just want to control others, they want to eliminate them.
Fear of death or torture can be an effective silencer of opposing points of view. Not only do I want to be able to do what I want to do; but also I want to be sure you will not just give me lip service permitting me to do it. It is like a rapist telling his or her victim; “I’m going to molest you and hurt you as I do it and you are going to like it, not just pretend to like it,” so as to avoid getting killed or even worse.
Sexual predators are addicted to sexual excitement and the subsequent release of pent up energy and. as they progress like addicts do, they require more and more in stronger doses of their “sexual” drug to achieve their payoff. What I am now hearing now is that blood lust is even worse and more horrible. Killing and torture become an end themselves, not just the means to an end’ and require more and more thrills so that the horrible deadly acts get worse and worse.
We are afraid of what other people think and even worse yet would do if we said, maybe even just thought, something that they wouldn’t agree with. Yes some things appear to be morally right or wrong and I believe there is such a thing as good and evil. Is it possible that the most important thing is that other people who are wrong would like us to think that way and keep our mouths’ shut and let them get away with “murder.”
Sometimes it is not a good idea to be nice all the time. What kind of an example do we provide to our children and others who might look up to us. Do we give more power to evil when we do this? Have we more power than they would like us to think. Why do we, in trying to be nice, give them more power instead of less. Do the oppressed have a voice? and what about the people who don’t know about it or, don’t want to know about it, should they keep silent and know or do nothing?
Something that is often apparent in Christian churches is that ministers and pastors and therefore their parishioners do not want to rock the boat and therefore, pray only for the world leaders in business and world affairs to have good judgment; but stop and think even if the leaders have it, will they use it appropriately. Would it be going too far to ask that those who have the best interests of the people in mind be put in positions of power and be supported by those who believe.
Asking others to stand for and work and pray for world peace is often not encouraged in public and sometimes not in church. Often only the pastors and leading members of the church can voice their concerns about this; but do they?.
Often in conventional churches, members are not advocated to stand up in front of the congregation and do this just as wives have been discouraged from contradicting their husbands and/or taking the place of leaders in the congregation. Women can do the work of the church; but to take the lead in the church is often not encouraged of women. Men may not be used to and/or accepting about the way women like to do things and subtly if not openly discourage this. Yet, women might be the strongest voice for peace we have whether in the home, in the community, or in the government.
As my dreams have shown me, I am unconsciously if not consciously standing up for my beliefs and my right to voice them. What about you? Should you and I keep quiet?
Creativity creates creativity. If you can conceive of something, you are on the way to creating something. Before we thought some things had the probability of existing, they didn’t exist. For example, the four minute mile, that the earth is round, being able to send invisible messages through the air. Just think of the benefit that science fiction has been to developing the probability of things that we previously thought could not exist. For example, a man on the moon; exploring Mars by robot and sending the results back to earth.
If you don’t ask a question, you won’t get an answer. Most of the time the pathway to an answer is developed by asking questions, especially the right ones. For example, how do we create a three dimensional replica of something that is like a photograph or projected image of a film strip which is a two dimensional replica of something that can be sent across space. It is a hologram, the most notorous one recently has been of Michael Jackson dancing at an award presentation.
Is creativity limited by our imagination or is our imagination limited by our creativity? Would the things that have been created in this and the last century be considered magic and therefore evil by some people in the previous centuries? Something a person doesn’t understand and therefore can’t conceive of is often considered to be evil. Natives who saw sailing ships on the horizon from the shore in what are now called the Americas did not perceive them or recognize them as sailing ships as they had no previous experience with them. They had no conception of such a thing.
We, too, must expand our horizons. We must derive new possibilities from what we know and from them go on to derive even more fantastic possibilities. What if aliens from outer space made contact with natives in south america and egypt and gave them knowledge and skills which helped them build architectual marvels? How does that change what you think about what happened there and what future inventions might you hypothesize we might create from this?
Here we are constantly discovering marvelous possibilities that were limited by our previous ways of thinking until we made new discoveries about earth and the things on it and surrounding it. Here at home, we have canines that can smell things that we as humans, don’t, and can detect the presence of things we, humans can’t by smell. There are animals that can camouflage themselves by taking on the coloration and textures of their surroundings. What does that make you think about the stories of the possibilities of the invisible man?
Find yourself; not someone else. It may be admirable to have a child or even children who are like you and follow in your footsteps; but he or she or they may not be comfortable in your shoes. In times past, it was important for people to have children so they could pick up where they left off. Parents trained their children to take their place someday and to be of help to them in a labor intensive time. Parents usually were not happy if their children did not take over for them.
Now it is more a matter of self-validation. It confirms to the parent that he or she took the right path when the children take the same path. Sometimes it is like the story of the ugly duckling. Remember that one turned out to be a swan, different, but beautiful. You can feel like the ugly duckling if you don’t fit into your family, class in school, or community. Some children like the ugly duckling even look different from the people that they are being raised with when if they were being raised with their own genetically kind (people who would probably look like them) wouldn’t look different at all. Down syndrome children and some biracial children are even often seen as different from their relatives.
If you study genetics and how traits are passed down from parent to child, you will often find that it is a very complex problem and doesn’t always work the way it seems it should. Children can have the same parents and have surprisingly different traits. This is also true of apptitudes and abilities. Add into this what happens to them from the time of conception to birth which may not be like their siblings and the children and their parents will still be related; but can be very different. Also traits may get passed down, but not to the desired child or sex (like first born male).
Children inherit tempraments which may or may not be like that of their parents. Sometimes oil and water do not mix. An “easy” parent may inherit a slow to warm up child and he or she can’t understand why his or her child does not easily take to new things.
Some talents or abilities which might be very strong can not be desired or appreciated in the family or society into which a person is born. I was born on a farm and eventually married a farmer (after doing other things) and I can understand why he sometimes does not understand why a “city” boy does not know how to do things farm boys know how to do and he has difficulty valuing what the “city” boy can do by virtue of his college education even if it was not in agriculture.
As much as I love flowers, I don’t want them to be all alike all the time. I like seeing new and different ones. Also some flowers that some people call flowers around here are called weeds by other people in other places. This might even be true of people growing marijuana when flowers appear in their plots. (I am not recommending that you start growing marijuana however.)
Be yourself as long as you are not deliberately hurting yourself (or others for your own gain) and when you find yourself, you will make your contribution to the world and become what YOU were or are meant to be. I believe finding yourself is why we were meant to be as we each have our own contribution to make. If we pay too much attention to what others tell us we should be, we may get led astray. It may not be easy, but it often will be rewarding. For example, how many shoes at how many shoe stores do some of us have to try before we find a shoe that fits us, feels good, and wears well. It usually is a personal thing. What shoe style works for one may not work for another. Also many people, especially women, pay the price for wearing shoes that they think they should wear because they are in fashion, etc. (Check out Oprah on this issue.)
Promote your own agenda. Don’t depend on somebody else to do it for you. Why is it always considered more acceptable when somebody else does something for you than if you do it for yourself? Is it because we don’t want to be seen as selfish or greedy. That leaves a lot of “cross” people out there. People who don’t get their needs met. There is also another unhappy group out there; those who are always meeting other peoples’ needs, not their own.
Meeting your own needs when you can means you don’t neglect yourself meeting other peoples’ needs and you don’t suffer from resentment because of this. Codependency is sometimes used as the name for this. This is often found in couples where one member is an alcoholic and the other one enables him or her.
I have my own truth detector, my dreams. In my dreams I am often doing what I either don’t do or try not to do in real life. My first comment in the morning when I wake up from a dream is, “Who me?” My competitivness, assertiveness, and anger come out in a big way and I am fighting the battle the whole night. No, I don’t always win in these dreams.
I am getting tired of working all day and dreaming all night. If this is the end of the world, I am trying to get it all done. Just when you think you have got yourself together, you don’t and your dreams tell you this. If I am not depressed when I go to sleep, I might be when I wake up.
Just learning that I can’t neglect my feelings and become a “goody goody two shoes” all the time. I guess that is why they call interpreting your dreams, “dream work.”
Do you know how much time we waste dreaming up worst case scenarios that fuel our negativity? I do. I have a family member who does that and on top of it he/she still practices the false belief syndrome of adolescence (that he/she always will get a raw deal in life) even though he/she is past thirty years old. What you see is what you get. Have you ever stopped yourself from doing this? Have you ever thought for a moment and pictured a different scenario, one with a happy ending. How does the scenario in your head affect your behavior, do you think it might mess you up, make you more anxious or less anxious? Your view of whether you can succeed or not may control the amount of effort you put into something because you are thinking,”I won’t get it anyway?” Do you prepare less? Are you more careless with your responses?
Do we ever spend more time thinking or talking about how we would like something to be than about how we are afraid things might turn out creating more negativity? Occasionally we might play the game of spending a million dollars in our heads. Yes, we can have fun with that; but take it further. If something is broken imagine it fixed or even replaced or even better yet replaced by something even better.
We are forever putting what we call realistic limits on our imaginations. We think this is not creating negativity, this is thinking realistically. Did you ever do this as a child? No, the more fantastic the better. Didn’t you once think (like I did) that there were things in the White House that were so advanced and fabulous that even the rich and famous did not have them yet. I figured the president could have anything he or she wanted and he or she would be the first one to get one when a prototype was made.
Have you ever in a prayer asked God for something or for something even better (letting God, not you, put limits on what you have asked for)? There we are back in the cycle of negativity. I have personally experienced remodeling and adding on to a house and then picking out the perfect floor plan and specifics for the purchase of a double-wide. In the first case, I drew a lot of plans. One of which eventually became the basis for a new addition. In the other case, I collected a lot of brochures and looked at a lot of double-wides by different manufacturers. When I started doing both of these things, there had been no plans made to do either. Initially I was just “wishbooking” (a term for what people used to do when they first got their Sears-Roebuck catalogs).
In this economy, it sometimes seems hopeless to wish for the best possible thing to happen and then waste your time planning for it. It is easy to create negativity. “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and you shall find,” says the Bible. If you don’t know what you are looking for, how will you know when you get it? Women, would you let someone else plan your wedding without any of your recommendations and also not be able to make any of the decisions? Men, would you want to go on a hunting or fishing trip or a photographic safari without any control over where you will be going and what you will be doing?
Are there impossible dreams? What do you think? Almost everything starts as a dream, a dream of something we might like to be true. Bringing up hypnosis again, hypnosis can change a person’s perception of what is possible and the impossible can happen. For example, a person can have surgery without anesthesia.
What about what seem to be the impossible dreams of other people? How often do we reject another person’s reality as impossible? What if we accept it first and wait to reject it later when we have examined the proposition? Take it a step further. What if we believed that if another person thought something was possible, it would be possible? Take “peace on earth”. How quickly do you reject that idea as impossible? How quickly could it be accomplished if people accepted the idea? There are studies where people concentrated on such ideas, visualized them, and prayed about them and things like crime in that area were reduced.
We often are controlled by others when we accept the idea that something can’t be done. They tell us we have impossible dreams. How often has it rained on your parade when someone convinced you that something you wanted to do couldn’t be done? You started out with a smile on your face and wound up with it turned upside down. People who feel powerless often try to become powerful by controlling other people’s lives when they can not control their own lives. Just think how all that enthusiasm that gets quashed could be used to accomplish something.
My dreams are not just wacky, mixed up images of things I had encountered earlier that day or scarey things that haunt me and ruin my sleep. I go to work. Some might call this lucid dreaming. I am with people and I am doing things and it seems to go on all night. Am I getting anything accomplished, I don’t know. I levitate and fly in my dreams also. This is the enjoyable part. I am a bit of a show-off in my dreams as not everybody in my dreams can do this like me.
Dreams are just one thing that many people disregard. Most people will admit that at least some, if not all, people dream even if some people can’t remember their dreams. There are some people who feel that dreams have no earthly purpose and that trying to remember them and interpret them is foolish and a waste of time. Things happen for a reason and therefore, dreams have a purpose. Disregarding our dreams is like denying that the sense of smell has any useful purpose.
Everybody dreams; but some people don’t remember their dreams. My sleeping partner would probably say that he doesn’t dream or that if he does dream, he doesn’t remember them. I have woken up and found him acting out some kind of scenario complete with audible mutterings. People who do remember their dreams are encouraged to record them immediately after they wake up. There are many different systems of dream symbols for interpreting dreams. The main problem is that often symbols have different meanings for different people.
Dreams do seem to provide a service. Otherwise, we wouldn’t dream. It is also important that we spend a certain amount of our time asleep dreaming. Animals appear to dream. Most dog and cat owners would probably back this up. Small children dream.
Some people say that they travel in their dreams and they are out of their body when they do it. Flying or levitating in dreams is interpreted as supporting this idea. People think that they can go places and see people who are either have passed away or who they have not seen in awhile. At least they remember these people as showing up in their dreams.
Most people will agree that they have had nightmares, scary dreams, where they are in danger and try to escape, often unsuccessfully. Sometimes dreams are accompanied by paralysis that appears to be permanent at the time where the sleeper is aware of his or her problem moving, but can not wake up and do anything about it.
Finally some people feel that there is lucid dreaming where you are able to stay aware in your dream that you are dreaming and are able to control what happens in the dream.