Just recently I gave somebody something and I wanted to tell somebody else who knew him or her what I had done. But I stopped and told myself that that wasn’t the point of the gift and it would instead have ruined what I had been trying to do.
We all in the past might have been a secret Santa to someone at holiday time and the best part of it was when the person didn’t know who had been doing such nice things and we had the secret thrill of seeing the other person’s pleasure and confusion when they found that something had been done for them or a small gift showed up at their door or on their pillow.
Often giving is more satisfying than getting. I know a lovely lady who when she gives a talk to children may give them each some unexpected treat like a candy bar or a dollar. The pleasure that she gets from this is reflected in the expression on her face and the timbre of her voice. She often does not have a lot to give, but she gives away what she has and doesn’t expect anything in return.
When someone gives something and does not expect something in return, this is true giving. There can be the delight in surprising someone with an unexpected present of something that the giver instinctively knows should be given to the other person at the opportune moment.
Gifts that are given with expectations of what the person who is receiving the gift must do in return is not a gift. Real “Gifts” come with no expectations and the giver will not be happier if the gift is accepted with great appreciation than if it is not appreciated and thrown away.
On the other hand, when receiving a gift, remember that if a gift (even if it is unwanted) is given in a spirit of joy and goodwill, often it should be happily accepted in the spirit that it was given. Most of us know that if a small child gives us a gift (even a pebble or a flower), we should appreciate it for what it often is an expression of love or affection and rather than keep it for themselves, they give it to you.
We all have the right to have different reasons for celebrating or not celebrating this season. You may choose to feel peace or joy or anger or depression at this time of year. I choose to feel good right now along with many other people. I like to greet people or they like to greet me with “Happy Holidays” or “Merry Christmas” so I am going to say, “Have a Blessed Holiday”, to you.