With the twelve step programs and all the addiction services out there, I have never heard mentioned that someone tried hypnosis. How about you? Maybe it should not be the only thing an addict tries but it could be an adjunct part of his or her therapy. People with addictions need all the help they can get. Hypnosis with a qualified hypnotist who has worked with weight problems and other addiction problems couldn’t hurt. It would be cost effective if done in groups and that might encourage someone to try it when they wouldn’t do it on their own. At the very least it would teach a person how to relax without seeking their drug or addictive behavior of choice.
Are there impossible dreams? What do you think? Almost everything starts as a dream, a dream of something we might like to be true. Bringing up hypnosis again, hypnosis can change a person’s perception of what is possible and the impossible can happen. For example, a person can have surgery without anesthesia.
What about what seem to be the impossible dreams of other people? How often do we reject another person’s reality as impossible? What if we accept it first and wait to reject it later when we have examined the proposition? Take it a step further. What if we believed that if another person thought something was possible, it would be possible? Take “peace on earth”. How quickly do you reject that idea as impossible? How quickly could it be accomplished if people accepted the idea? There are studies where people concentrated on such ideas, visualized them, and prayed about them and things like crime in that area were reduced.
We often are controlled by others when we accept the idea that something can’t be done. They tell us we have impossible dreams. How often has it rained on your parade when someone convinced you that something you wanted to do couldn’t be done? You started out with a smile on your face and wound up with it turned upside down. People who feel powerless often try to become powerful by controlling other people’s lives when they can not control their own lives. Just think how all that enthusiasm that gets quashed could be used to accomplish something.
Do you know why people do what they do? Do you think psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors know this automatically when they get information about a new client’s problem? Sometimes it takes at least just a little more knowledge about a situation than what has been given to start with to understand why something is happening. I was taught to do behavior modification therapy and although the process I used was by the book; it had to be tweaked to work right. The necessary rewards and punishments had to motivate the client to do or not do a certain specified behavior or behaviors. For example, I have a family member for whom chocolate ice cream wouldn’t work, but for time for this family member to take a nice long bath would.
This has been a problem not only when doing behavior therapy but also when doing other kinds of therapy. Sometimes it’s not what you think that is why people do what they do. I knew of a farmer who drank when the weather forecast was bad. I figured he was upset that he couldn’t get into the field the next day and was worried that he wouldn’t get his crops in or out. No, I found out later that he knew he could drink that evening because he wouldn’t be operating farm equipment the next day.
I was using a very successful method of hypnosis for helping a person to quit smoking and I was getting nowhere. The person had very serious health problems caused by smoking. When I did a through follow-up interview, I found out that the only thing that person did for his or her own enjoyment was smoking. He or she constantly did for others 24/7. The amount of such work that he or she did was mind boggling. He or she was at the beck and call of family and friends.
Continuing the discussion on the senses, Without A Thought, Effortless Living, ” if you use the same sense as your conversational partner prefers when talking about how he or she perceives things, you will be more in sync with them and you will find that he or she may be more agreeable and more likely to accept your point of view. This could be a very good sales technique and it is also used in establishing rapport in therapy or inducing trances, especially in a conversational style of induction. In any relationship, paying attention to such things would give you a clue as to the type of activity or gift someone would like. How about, “That smells good,” for example. Makes you think of fresh baked goods or scented candles or perfume or aftershave.
As you grow psychologically and focus more on your direct experience (Ah la mindfulness), you will probably become more aware of your own sensory experiences. Colors may become brighter; sounds, more noticeable; smells, more attractive or more obnoxious. You may become able to create a more realistic experience when you imagine a restful scene when using relaxation techniques. Start with your area of strength, usually the one sense that you use the most when describing things. By doing so, you can get in sync with yourself and have a more intense experience when you do this. The more of this you do, the better your visualizations (for want of a better word that would include the use of all the senses).