Are some people rude and obnoxious because they count on other people to be polite? Also do some people lie because other people won’t correct them for fear of being rude themselves? Some people say hurtful and insulting things because they don’t expect other people to call them on it. They will also tell lies because other people will often give them the benefit of the doubt or don’t want to start an argument.
What is often true is that the other person is uncouth and often cruel because they can get away with it. It is sometimes even extremely obvious that they are doing this but they think that no one will say anything and they usually don’t. Doing so often accounts for a period of stunned silence from the audience members with it being so quiet you could hear a pin drop.
For example, I once entered the room where a large family gathering was already going on and everybody looked to see who was coming in. The rude person in a loud voice asked, “Who cut your hair?” It was obvious that person was being critical of the way I looked. It had already been a long day for me and I replied, “Well, who asked you?” in front of the whole group. This was met by stunned silence not just at the initial comment that had been made but at my reply. I felt it had been very appropriate considering that this person made a game of doing such things.
Sometimes the only way you can handle such comments is by being rude, obnoxious, and impolite in return. Such cruel people love to embarrass people and often do this when they have a crowd for an audience. People who are crude this way often may unconsciously worry that they might have the same problem that they are pointing out in somebody else but we usually don’t call them on it.
Social interaction is crucial to children learning language. Watching a video or listening to an auditory version is not enough. Are children becoming autistic because people in our world are becoming less and less involved? What about a good old fashioned conversation or a satisfying read? Being unable to interact with others is a very real problem and I can see the day when children have virtual play dates? How removed from reality is this? Will we all sit home and rely on clouds and the internet to keep us in touch? Will the ethers be doing our talking? It will no longer be necessary to read or write as computers will communicate for us just by talking and ultimately will thoughts and images not words be used to share ideas?
This just started out as a blog about how children need human contact to learn and ultimately to thrive. Scarey isn’t it? For example, someday people will not sign their names, not just because they did not learn cursive writing; but because reading and writing are no longer considered necessary. We have done this since the dawn of the machine age and eliminating the human factor in creating things that we need and use. Is it possible we are also eliminating the good vibrations that many skilled, dedicated craftsmen and craftswomen put into their work.
Do you keep a low profile. Do you wait for others to celebrate you life landmarks and they never do? Did you miss your graduation? because it was too much pomp and circumstance and you saved everybody the hassle of coming to it. I have my Ph.D. from the University of Wisconsin; but I don’t know what my academic colors are because I didn’t go. I didn’t feel I should make everyone make the trip back as when I finished I was no longer on campus.
Only two people were invited to our wedding, the witnesses. I don’t believe I have ever celebrated my anniversary with a special date night on the town. Is it bad to blow your own horn? I bought my own birthday cake and my friends knew I was celebrating my 70th birthday last November but my family didn’t know it wasn’t an ordinary birthday (Don’t worry it has been almost a year and either I am getting used to it or getting over it (being 70)). Many achievements in college I didn’t get to celebrate with my family because they couldn’t make the trip but my mother did come for my graduation. But when my son and my son-in-law graduated from the training academy, we went.
If you don’t celebrate yourself, no one one else will. If you don’t think you are worth it, no one else will? Your attitude toward yourself communicates itself nonverbally to others and they treat you the same way you treat yourself. I can be very professional when I know I am right and have the responsibility to do what is right! But it doesn’t carry over sometimes to my family and friends. Even the grand kids have begun to question my authority. But I’m not going to back down for their sake.
I have a list of complements hidden on the back of my medicine cabinet door that I would like to get; but it is not posted where anyone could see it. Why are we encouraged to be so self-effacing? I am the opposite of a narcissist I guess. Stand up, stand up for what you believe in including yourself. I hesitate to share my opinions at home or at family occasions so nobody knows what I think there. I hesitate because I might embarrass myself or others like family or friends. Keep your mouth shut. Ever hear of that?
Self-help materials suggest that you associate with only supportive friends in order to keep your self-esteem high. Of course that can keep you in denial by only associating with people who agree with you. Is there a happy medium? Are you lying to yourself or do other people keep trying to put you down?
We often look without seeing, hear without listening. We miss so much precious information when we are in too much of a hurry to go somewhere or do something to spend the time to process it. It is surprising to discover that the smiles of children sparkle; their voices tinkle with a tune. Little children spread happiness and it is contagious.
Usually if we can’t accept what we are hearing or seeing, we just deny it. Psychically other people can be an open book if we are reading their expressions to get more information about them so we can understand them better and help them.
Spread the word. Life can be a bowl or cherries or a box of chocolates if you want it to be. Ever start the day by getting out on the wrong side of the bed? That has serious repercussions. Pay attention to how you start the day and do it in a different way for your own sake.
You can’t give away kindness. It keeps coming back. Seen on a local church sign. Makes the world a better place. Doesn’t it? How well you treat others will determine how well you are treated. Make somebody’s day. Stop an avalanche of anger that started when that person got up on the wrong side of the bed today.
There is so much you can do to make the world a better place. Good is more powerful than evil. Happiness and laughter are contagious. Don’t let the world drag you down. Turn the other cheek. Don’t let rude behavior become contageous. Say something cheerful like , “It looks like we’re going to have a sunny day,” instead of something depressing.
Remember Be it, until you become it. How many breast cancer victims laughed their way through chemotherapy? Laughter is the best medicine. Whose lives can you touch positively this day? Say, “Thank you,” for everything that effects your life. Clean water, shelter, plentious food, the affection of spouse, children, and friends. The fact that you are warm and comfortable or cool and comfortable. An attitude of thankfulness like an act of kindness can change your world. Instead of always looking for something to gripe about.
Being picky can ruin your day as well as someone else’s. I won’t be happy if…I don’t get my morning latte, there is a traffic jam on the way to work, I oversleep and am late, etc. Remember your attitude determines your altitude. If not plan A, then plan B, if not plan B, then plan C, etc. Who knows what will work out for you. Being right is not the be all and end all of existence.
Happiness depends on you. Be very careful how you spend your day. It only comes by once. Share a kindness with someone today, maybe even yourself. Do you create disappointment and hurt feelings when and where they didn’t exist before. It is like a rolling snowball gathering momentum and more snow as it goes downhill.
What would you rather create? happiness or gloominess. For example, somewhere a person is not happy because the sun is shining. Is it you? You are in a bad mood and it is going to stay that way. Watch out everybody, here I come. Madder than a wet hen about what is going on in your world right now. Bad news travels fast. What about good news. Haven’t we lost our focus and let other things (especially the media and other people) determine our mood.
Laughter is good for you and good for others as long as they laugh with you. Laughing at someone as long as they are in on the joke and/ or they did something deliberately to evoke it is fine.
Laughter initiates a mood change. It is hard to be grumpy and pessimistic when you are smiling and chuckling.
Laughter is more frequent among children than among adults. Hang around the younger generation and concentrate on the laughter and joy that surrounds them when they play.
Laughter is generated when you can see the humor in a situation even if it is initially distressing or embarrassing. Awkward moments have been handled by doing this. Comedians often make fun of themselves and of things like divorce and death which people don’t usually perceive as funny.