Modern society has its disadvantages. Sunday used to be a day of rest. Stores were closed. No one worked or did business that day. It was a time for worship, recreation, and rest or R and R. There was time for naps, reading the Sunday paper, socialization at church, and family gatherings.
When it got dark in the evening, it was difficult to see to do work or travel. Things shut down at sun down. You put your eight hours in in the day and you had your nights to yourself. Now we are busy almost every evening doing things we didn’t get done during the day or attending activities. Families are so over scheduled these days that kids and parents are not getting enough sleep and their stress levels go up. Bread winners are working overtime and young people can’t have just one after school activity or a weekend job.
Families don’t get to see each other or when they do they are part of a huge audience of like-minded parents and don’t actually get to spend time with their kids. Teenagers disappear to attend extensive practices and work lots of hours. A family meal is a thing of the past. Working parents are not going to prepare supper somewhere in the middle of this time crunch and a lot of fast food gets eaten.
People don’t have conversations any more and take a break to spend some time catching up with friends. Time that used to be spent talking on the phone is spent texting and waiting for a reply and catching up with social sites on the internet and playing games on apps on phones.
Teenagers, and probably adults too, are also not getting enough sleep as electronic gadgets and artificial light are keeping them awake and interfering with the production of melatonin which would help them sleep.
Promote your own agenda. Don’t depend on somebody else to do it for you. Why is it always considered more acceptable when somebody else does something for you than if you do it for yourself? Is it because we don’t want to be seen as selfish or greedy. That leaves a lot of “cross” people out there. People who don’t get their needs met. There is also another unhappy group out there; those who are always meeting other peoples’ needs, not their own.
Meeting your own needs when you can means you don’t neglect yourself meeting other peoples’ needs and you don’t suffer from resentment because of this. Codependency is sometimes used as the name for this. This is often found in couples where one member is an alcoholic and the other one enables him or her.
I have my own truth detector, my dreams. In my dreams I am often doing what I either don’t do or try not to do in real life. My first comment in the morning when I wake up from a dream is, “Who me?” My competitivness, assertiveness, and anger come out in a big way and I am fighting the battle the whole night. No, I don’t always win in these dreams.
I am getting tired of working all day and dreaming all night. If this is the end of the world, I am trying to get it all done. Just when you think you have got yourself together, you don’t and your dreams tell you this. If I am not depressed when I go to sleep, I might be when I wake up.
Just learning that I can’t neglect my feelings and become a “goody goody two shoes” all the time. I guess that is why they call interpreting your dreams, “dream work.”
Do you know when you give things away? Do you give things away without knowing that you do. Maybe you don’t just give things away for free but maybe you don’t sell them for what they are worth. Are you aware of what you are worth? Do you have something of value to sell? Can you actually afford to give this stuff away?
If you are aware of how you give things away, then you can get in control of what and how you give things away and you can do so when you can actually afford to do so. Have you heard the story of the little red hen who grew the wheat, made the bread, and then gave it away, but did not keep any for herself so died of starvation and could no longer provide the bread for others. Of course, the little red hen even liked to grow the wheat and make the bread; but she could not keep doing this when she did not get anything in return and ran out of resources to do it.
One way that you give things away is by offering free samples; but you need to leave your audience wanting more. This is when you offer to sell them more by getting something from them. You have to sell it for more than the cost of the ingredients because your training and experience, your knowledge, your time and energy are worth more. In order to develop new products, to offer quality services, to make improvements in your existing product, and thrive, you must price your product appropriately.
Everybody does not know everything and there is a good chance that you know something about something that is not common knowledge and could be worth an appropriate amount of money to other people who need this knowledge.