Every time I think that the Little PEOPLE are getting ahead, I realise they aren’t. I was very happy with the recent election because I felt that the new administration was supporting the middle class that was no longer the middle class under the current, soon past administration.
What I have recently realised is that I have joined the lower class (once working class or even middle class in many situations). We are squeaking by on social security and disability payments (which have been borrowed from to pay other government expenses) and have to seek help like free food from The Master’s Hand locally. Also in this area, if you have farm income (that counts against you as it is considered income before farming expenses are taken out) in terms of getting any extra government help.
Most of us would contribute something to the economy if there was a way we could. Most of us would like to have a voice in the new administration. For example, most of Illinois voted for the new administration except for the heavily populated urban areas. But where is our voice? No one campaigned in our areas and we feel that no one has listened to our concerns. What do you think? Are there other areas of our country in the same shape?
Also who is the voice of the forgotten little people? On the network that supported the election of the new administration, we are not represented. They are again relying on experts who have no real life experience or it is so far in the remote past that they don’t remember it or so far removed from it, it doesn’t matter anymore.
Also, there is pressure on these experts, especially women, to conform to certain standards not representative of the men and/or do not reflect what ordinary people look like. It is nice for some of us to remain “young” and look youthful but is not the way most people look and it is easier to see the standards for men are less stringent than for women.
For example, most woman experts on this network look like they are ready to go to a cocktail party instead of a business occasion. Yes, the men are nicely and appropriately dressed but they don’t have to struggle as much as women do to appear appropriately presentable, youthful and beautiful.
When are the Little PEOPLE going to be represented? The overall wearing, wearing second-hand clothing, or in “high style” Wal-Mart, but often foreign made, clothing? We have a lot to say and we don’t have a lot we can do about our situations but suffer. Welfare often misses us and as our social security or retirement checks do not raise, but inflation and the cost of living does and as things cost more and more, we have to get by on less and less with little or no representation in or help from society or the government!
The Little PEOPLE do have something to say! We have learned something through experience. We do have “philosophical” discussions. We can see things others more fortunate and potentially more powerful don’t.
Certainly how Little PEOPLE experience life has something to say about the type of life we are promoting for all! Often as people do better and better economically, they tend to put people down who haven’t and consider their opinions useless and their motivations feckless! Also other people who have done well often think the same way and might make fun of those who don’t. How many Little People do you see in certain churches or certain social groups like the Elks? Nuff said.
Criticism is the little voice in your head that holds you back and hinders your performance. Even though others say it is for your own good, sometimes it isn’t.
Reality is not always what you think it is or what you were told it is. You can miss seeing, hearing, feeling and experiencing some things because someone told you that you just were imagining things.
Sometimes as people get older they don’t get wiser, they just get more set in their ways. Sometimes a strongly held theory or opinion becomes a person’s life jacket when he or she is drowning in new information.
How hard is it for a person to change his or her mind? This may be why people are told not to bring up religion or politics at the dinner table. Maybe this is a good reason to think outside the box. Many inventions were created this way.
Remember people are natural born originals and can’t be easily shaped into something that they are not. Gemstones have to be cut into shapes that work with their natural structures. What about individuals who are being shaped into contributing citizens?
Small children not only have problems with object recognition in a dimly lit bedroom, they also in early childhood as young as two or three have good imaginations often telling adults that they see or hear something vividly that is only a figment of their very colorful imagination. Combine the two and they were easily could see monsters in the dark which their parents then tell them aren’t real and that they should act as if they are not there and go to sleep. What this really means is that they still “see” monsters but know they have to act as if they weren’t there.
When a child is in bed, they see things from a different perspective than the one they have when they are sitting up or moving around the room. There is the psychological concept of object permanency which is used when a child is able to see an object such as a bottle from different angles and in different types of illumination and still know that it is a bottle and treat it like one.
Another difference is the rods in the retina pick up and transmit the effect of a black and white picture which is more blurry than that the very sharp image that the cones give in brilliant color (which are in the center of the retina) in very bright light. Yes, black and white images in photos and motion pictures are almost gone and “little” ones are probably not familiar with them.Could this be the origin of fears of sleeping in the dark which are topped off by the parent telling them that what they see and what it looks like (how they perceive it) is wrong and their feelings about it are foolish and should be denied so that the parent (not necessarily the child) can relax and go back to sleep thinking that they have banished the monsters effectively and gotten the child to believe there are no monsters in his or her room when they have done no such thing. What they really have done has made the situation more scarey because the child still believes there are monsters but his or her parents don’t believe it and now they can’t depend on their parents for help and must face the perceived danger alone and probably without a light to illuminate the dark and scarey corners.
Don’t make children deny their feelings, they don’t go away, they just stay out of sight. They must be seen from the child’s point of view. For example, mommy, daddy, there is the monster over there and there is his head, there are his eyes and there are his hands and he has claws sticking out. See he is breathing. Fuzzy images in the near dark do look like they might be moving or breathing. It can happen also from a child’s changes in perspective.
Recently I have been conducting experiments of my own. There is a night light on in our master bedroom and I often wake up very early in the morning while it is still dark outside and I see things in the shadows and they even seem to move or look unrecognizable especially my husband’s clothes hung on the bedpost or the covers pushed up in a pile at the end of the bed. It seems very easy to not realize what I am really looking at and could easily identify in broad day light. I’ve seen a goblin with a shiny eyes and a big male pig laying there with two twitching ears. I have even reached out to touch the apparition in order to satisfy myself as to what the image really is.
Have You Been Brain Washed As A Child?
It is likely that you have.
In order to understand our world, we quickly accept our parents and others views of the world and begin to reject or deny those things that don’t fit these preconceived notions. How much evidence from our own senses do we reject in order to fit in? Researchers have found that sounds not used in our native language atrophy if we don’t use them. How many other things atrophy from disuse. Our caregivers teach us what to pay attention to and what not to pay attention to and thus, limiting what we take in in terms of our senses (normal vs. paranormal?). Yes, if some limiting does not get done, a child will be confused by all the input coming from his or her senses and his or her ability to pay attention will be impaired.
For example, still today professionals in my field, psychology, deny that children see monsters in their rooms when they try to go to sleep and give advice to parents that they should reassure their children, when this happens, that this is not so, and not to encourage them to make a big deal of it. This can make children doubt their senses and this can be seen as a form of manipulation.
Recently I have discovered that this is not true. Things do look different in a darkened bedroom with only a little light from a night light or from the hall through a barely open door. Our pupils dilate in these circumstance and we can see more with less light. True, it is the multitude of black and white sensors (which are called rods) in the retina that perceive this as they are the most sensitive in this type of situation of low light. Also their accuracy in perceiving things is only fair unlike that of the cones which are not operating. Cones perceive things in bright light and do so with a lot more accuracy than the rods which take over and dominate when there is not much light. Part of the reason for this is that there are more rods than cones.
I’ve tried this out in my bedroom in the middle of the night and things don’t look the same as they do when the room is well lite. I often initially have difficulty figuring out what things are, even familiar things like my spouse laying besides me. I am an adult and I know that this is happening. What about about a child who naturally sees things differently when the light is dim and he or she may see formless shapes that don’t look familiar and is scared. A parent denying that this happens doesn’t make it go away and further more it doesn’t change what and how children see in their dimly lite bedrooms. It just encourages them to deny that what is really happening is true.
Often the child learns that asking for reassurance doesn’t work. It just teaches them to keep it to themselves and to be afraid of the dark like I was as a child. The only time I could sleep comfortably is when there was another person staying in the room with me or when I had a low wattage light nearby where I could see it. This fear can spread farther if parents’ continue to tell children to deny what they see and how it makes them feel.
For awhile there was a lot of research on the “double bind”and how it was often found in families of schizophrenics (which is a serious mental illness) and their ability to think and reason is also often impaired. A family member would say one thing when he or she obviously looked like and or sounded like he or she meant something else. For example, by holding a small child at arm’s length and saying, “I love you.” Sometimes adults’ think that they are being polite when they do this and often people are trained to not “see” this or if they do, to not comment on it. This can completely mix up a child’s brain. He or she can not be confident that what they are seeing and/or hearing is what they are actually seeing or hearing.
Genuineness can become a rare commodity if this is constantly done. The child’s gut feels one thing when he or she is told that the person with them is not feeling that way. Lately people have been told to trust their intuition or instincts more. So many people have shut off that “still small voice” so often that they don’t hear it anymore. How often have we been taught not only what to think, but also what to feel. Does the word “propaganda” sound familiar? It starts when parents are uncomfortable with children who see and feel things like they really are and that is not what the parent wants the child to see and hear. This makes them uncomfortable because they don’t want a child to feel or think that way for some reason. What is the difference, if any, between this and outright deliberate lying?
We naturally are able to perceive many different things and people find it easier to deny this ability in others so they can control them, not only what they do, but also what they think. We are not a bunch of sheep who must be herded in the direction that the “shepherd” wants us to go for his or her own convenience or nefarious ends.
How often have we heard the response, “No, I am not angry,” when a person obviously is. Lying is often a convenient thing to do. It aids in the manipulation of others and has almost become a way of life for many if not all people. In this society we continually put people down and this most often happens after we have encouraged someone to tell the truth.
Don’t put people down. There are enough people doing it already. Bring them up instead. No wonder we are so sensitive. Sometimes I feel that I should be wearing a suit of armor. This is often done in childhood when it is most easily done. Children are innocent and don’t realize what is being done to them. Do people put other people down just so they can bring themselves up? Sounds phony doesn’t it?
What do you think? Continuing to explore this issue, was your childhood family motto:”Don’t Ask Don’t Tell?” More on this in a future post.
Social interaction is crucial to children learning language. Watching a video or listening to an auditory version is not enough. Are children becoming autistic because people in our world are becoming less and less involved? What about a good old fashioned conversation or a satisfying read? Being unable to interact with others is a very real problem and I can see the day when children have virtual play dates? How removed from reality is this? Will we all sit home and rely on clouds and the internet to keep us in touch? Will the ethers be doing our talking? It will no longer be necessary to read or write as computers will communicate for us just by talking and ultimately will thoughts and images not words be used to share ideas?
This just started out as a blog about how children need human contact to learn and ultimately to thrive. Scarey isn’t it? For example, someday people will not sign their names, not just because they did not learn cursive writing; but because reading and writing are no longer considered necessary. We have done this since the dawn of the machine age and eliminating the human factor in creating things that we need and use. Is it possible we are also eliminating the good vibrations that many skilled, dedicated craftsmen and craftswomen put into their work.
If you go you usually have got to come back and take up the reins again. Most trips aren’t one way. It seems often you can’t have one without the other. Haven’t you noticed it often seems to take longer to get to a new place then it takes to go back? Why is it we often focus only on the front part of a journey and when it is time to go back, we say wishfully I wish I didn’t have to go back.
Does the trip going home wear you out more or the trip getting there? In my mind’s eye I can see the exhausted mother and father standing just inside the door with bags and suitcases and parcels all around them on the floor where they have just dropped them. Think of the dirty laundry that has to be done and the work, school. and church or other social schedules that have to be resumed.
For example, what about a shopping trip to the mall or the home supply store? Where do we put the stuff that we get? When do we start the project (and finish it) that we got the things for? What about when we get the credit card statement and have to start making the payments? What if the clothes or shoes don’t fit and we find out that we overly optimistic about this What if we got lumber or something else that needs to be the right width or length and we discovered we had mis-measured?
Don’t we always find going shopping rewarding as we get to see and think about all the things that are available out there. Are our eyes bigger than our stomachs? Have we bit off more than we can chew? How about when you have a party at your house and have to clean up all the mess afterwards.?
Remember when you go, you have to come back! Makes sense doesn’t it? It usually is no laughing matter!
Do you let others make you feel bad when you have done nothing wrong. Some people call this a “guilt trip” but this is more complicated. Some people thrive on the fact that they can make other people feel bad so they can get what they want from them. Some people make “their living” by manipulating others into doing what they want them to do. It is also known as the game of “Gotcha Ya!” Why feel responsible for your own behavior when you can make others feel guilty for doubting you. Some of us have a “guilty conscience” which is easily manipulated even when we have done nothing wrong. This lets other people who don’t really care about your feelings get away with “murder”.
This works especially well when you can get an innocent person to doubt that he or she (who you know will get the blame) did the right thing? Do you know that you have to have a conscience in order to to be manipulated in this way. I don’t know if knowing this is happening will make you feel better when it happens to you; but it should.
Yes, it is a scam and the person perpetuating this scam will continue to do this to you or other ones that you love until they no longer can get away with it. This usually never happens because they usually can get people to feel a shadow of a doubt that something is going on here. Worse comes to worse these people will move on to other people if they can no longer get away with this with you , your friends, or family.
They often rely on the fact that you will not check the facts and that the other people involved in the scheme don’t know you and/or that you won’t contact them to check things out. Lying is usually not a problem for these manipulators. If you can be fooled this way then you deserve to be scammed. At the very least, it will not cost you much to bail them out or make something right so that they or the person they are lying about won’t have to suffer. They believe in spreading the “wealth” and they are just helping it along. And the better they are at this game the less likely they will get caught.
They really don’t like people to get to know them well and may or may not move on when they think that somebody might get onto their game. You may notice that they seem to know more about you than you do about them. They are always moving around, trying to get a new job, and when they ask for help you may not have heard from them in a awhile and not have known what they have been doing. They can find you easy enough but you have difficulty finding them as their addresses, jobs, and phones may have changed or be cut off. You are never sure of the “facts” and you often known how or with whom you can check them. You are often an “open book” and they can easily find you and check up on you. One I knew had the gall to find their phone number and to call some friends of ours to check up on us “on a fact? finding mission.”.
The biggest price besides maybe money is that you feel “bad” whenever this happens to you and they attempt to make you feel bad when there is no reason for you to feel bad and every reason to doubt them and not feel bad. They also may get your family and friends to sympathize with them and believe you did something wrong too.
I would apologize to Robin Williams; but I can’t since he has passed away. However, in this picture, he has that “look” like he is signaling to you that you have done something naughty and that you should be at least a little bit ashamed.
Rediscovering your self is a process that you go through many times in your life. You may think that you already know who you are and then you discover what you really are is really someone else. Have you become society”s conception of what you ought to be. Make your own plan, forge ahead blindly not knowing where you are going but knowing you have the freedom to do so.
Meet your soul, the person you were meant to be, not letting other people or other things determine who you are. Do you not know what you want. although you may know what you do not want. Unfortunately the unconscious only understands positive statements and we waste a lot of time having negative thoughts and not converting these negative thoughts into positive ones. We don’t want to be disappointed so we warn ourselves that we must protect ourselves against losing things that have come to mean a lot to us.
Most of us were warned against having a “big head” as a child or even as an adult and this prevents us from promoting ourselves. Fortunately or unfortunately men more than women are encouraged and reinforced for creating a name for themselves and for getting respect from others. Think of the accomplishments a man can line up: school board president, kindly old physician, preacher, evangelist, solid businessman. Someone whose opinions and comments count.
Some of us have been encouraged to step back and let others have the limelight. “Pride goeth before a fall.” A male “expert” often gets more recognition than a female “expert”. We think for “the chosen” to have powers, others must shirk or shrink from the limelight.
Our self-confidence is often so fragile that we can become depressed and procrastinate and feel doomed to fail. We think that there is no room in the inn for us and we must settle for the stable. We spin our wheels and get nowhere.
Everyone is important just as every child is precious. Do you not think that your grandchild or son or daughter is or was precious. Their eyes, their nose, their mouth were perfect. Every saying they made or thing that they did or created was or is precious. Something to be cherished and remembered. What happened to you? When did you stop being a cute little kid? God’s or nature’s perfect gift.
Self confidence and courage do a lot to keep a person from having cold feet about what they want to accomplish. Most of us suffer from the that we can’t debilitating have or do what we want so we stop wishing and visualizing the perfect future for us.
Sometimes we focus on one objective that was chosen by ourselves as an acceptable one or by others for us to the exception of all else. Remember when we free to explore all outlets of life back when your artwork or other creations were considered to be significant and not a waste of time. Yet you began to work harder and harder to meet the one goal that you thought was achieveable whether you liked it or not.
The opportunities are endless if you believe in their existence. Don’t limit yourself and don’t let others limit you. Are you the friend everybody likes because compared to you they are successful in life? “Oh, woe is me”, can be an endless litany and those who listen to it can become tried of it eventually. When should you start discovering your real self? THE TIME IS NOW!
Oh, Oh, I have been thinking again and have just got to get it out where you and I can see it and read it. So here again is another rough draft.
You don’t see it all. Don’t you think that you could trip over something if you didn’t see it and you might get badly hurt. Most of us do this all the time psychologically. If it hurts to think of something, it is easier sometimes to forget it. If we have a fault, it feels better to focus on the faults of others rather than our own. Where do you think gossip c0mes from?
If we have a significant failure in our life or think we lack ability in an important area, we might overcompensate by focusing all our time and energy in another area where we think we are might be able to do better or there is less competition. This often happens in families where an older sibling is a star athlete or straight A scholar. Have you ever heard about a young girl who is attractive and limber and says she won’t try out for cheerleader because her old sister or cousin was one and she couldn’t compete. Are we just fooling ourselves (“Pride goeth before a fall”) or are we making it to a bad situation.
For example, frequently extremely talented people when their performances turn into money making propositions, often neglect to get good help in managing their assets and live in a fantasy land where they don’t have to think about things like that. They often give over control of their own organization to someone else while retaining the right to spend what they earn as they see fit. Can’t you see the train wreck coming in this type of situation?Freud called these tendencies to avoid psychological pain and difficulties defense mechanisms. They are projection, overcompensation, denial, repression, and rationalization. As good a job as they do of protecting us, they can get in our way of living a full and healthy life.
For example, if you lived in an area with poisonous snakes denying that they lived in your part of the country, might lead to a dangerous surprise someday especially if you go to an area where these snakes are known to live and come out of hiding to lay in the warm sun because they are cold blooded creatures and you both pick the same sunny spot?! to sun bath. In this case ignorance is not bliss.Blame rhymes with shame and that is what we feel when we do this. Shaming is a powerful tool used by significant others and others in power over us to keep us from doing something or to get us to do something. Shame seems to have no useful purpose but to thwart us in our desires. Often this turns into a situation like in the story about the emperor’s new clothes. The tailor had the emperor thinking that he had such a fine cloth to make him a new outfit that only very special people could see it and thus were able to wear it. How the townspeople laughed when they saw him in the new outfit that the tailor had made for him and they could only see he had only underclothes.What we see, hear, smell, taste, and feel with our senses and what we make of them are our perceptions. After you go to bed and turn most of the lights off, you won’t be able to see anything until your eyes adjust and then what you see will be mainly black and white and not as clear as you normally would see it. Now do you know why toddlers see monsters and are afraid of the dark at bedtime.
Last night my little grand daughter was spending the night and sleeping on the couch. She keep asking about that black thing over there in the corner and was not satisfied until I went over there and found what she was looking at, a dark blue throw in a heap on the floor next to Grandpa’s recliner. Since she trusted me and I reassured her with my actions by checking it, she went to sleep.Children are less stupid than we give them credit for being. They know less than we do and may have put together what they know in a guileless way, but it still makes sense if you can see it from their point of view. Unhappily sometimes it is easier to put these children off or tell them a convenient lie than to spend the time it really takes to understand and deal with the situation. For example, the old there are no monsters under the bed comment which can lead to tears on the child’s part and frustration on the adult’s part.
Do we hide stuff from ourselves by using such things as defense mechanisms? Then do they come back to haunt us in the future? Maybe it is better when you do see it all, no matter how uncomfortable that makes us. How often does one partner not see it coming when the other partner asks for a divorce and/or has an affair? Yes, we do have to focus in order to get anything done like texting while driving but then we might fatally fail to attend to something else that was going on at the same time.
Creativity creates creativity. If you can conceive of something, you are on the way to creating something. Before we thought some things had the probability of existing, they didn’t exist. For example, the four minute mile, that the earth is round, being able to send invisible messages through the air. Just think of the benefit that science fiction has been to developing the probability of things that we previously thought could not exist. For example, a man on the moon; exploring Mars by robot and sending the results back to earth.
If you don’t ask a question, you won’t get an answer. Most of the time the pathway to an answer is developed by asking questions, especially the right ones. For example, how do we create a three dimensional replica of something that is like a photograph or projected image of a film strip which is a two dimensional replica of something that can be sent across space. It is a hologram, the most notorous one recently has been of Michael Jackson dancing at an award presentation.
Is creativity limited by our imagination or is our imagination limited by our creativity? Would the things that have been created in this and the last century be considered magic and therefore evil by some people in the previous centuries? Something a person doesn’t understand and therefore can’t conceive of is often considered to be evil. Natives who saw sailing ships on the horizon from the shore in what are now called the Americas did not perceive them or recognize them as sailing ships as they had no previous experience with them. They had no conception of such a thing.
We, too, must expand our horizons. We must derive new possibilities from what we know and from them go on to derive even more fantastic possibilities. What if aliens from outer space made contact with natives in south america and egypt and gave them knowledge and skills which helped them build architectual marvels? How does that change what you think about what happened there and what future inventions might you hypothesize we might create from this?
Here we are constantly discovering marvelous possibilities that were limited by our previous ways of thinking until we made new discoveries about earth and the things on it and surrounding it. Here at home, we have canines that can smell things that we as humans, don’t, and can detect the presence of things we, humans can’t by smell. There are animals that can camouflage themselves by taking on the coloration and textures of their surroundings. What does that make you think about the stories of the possibilities of the invisible man?