Are you a mental hoarder and don’t know it. There are useless thoughts and painful memories that need to be sorted out into three categories: save, maybe, and useless. Sometimes we spend more time ruminating about the past and things we can’t change than we do enjoying the present and planning for the future.
What do you think? Are you a hoarder and therefore, there is not much room for current experiences and anticipation of future possibilities. Hoarders in real life don’t get much done and sometimes hoarding can be life threatening.
Their living space becomes dirty and can’t be cleaned. It is difficult to cook, use the bathroom, and find decent clothes to wear. Hoarders don’t often have much company and it is possible for a hoarder to have an accident or mental emergency, and not be able to get any help and die.
The more you keep your mind filled with negative and painful memories, the less room you have for new or current friends and family, the less able you are to develop new strategies to live life successfully, and learn to enjoy what you do have or could have if you weren’t blind sighted by the past.
Just think that you are married and that you have a mother-in-law or father-in-law who doesn’t like you and who can manipulate things so you don’t come out looking so good to the rest of the family and people in the neighbourhood who are neighbours and people you might know from church or other organisations.
This person or persons gets more bank for the buck every time you think about what they did to you and how it affects your relationship with others. Have you ever had a scab or a sore that you couldn’t stop picking at? What did doing that do to the spot? It may have kept it from healing, and if it did eventually heal, it would form a scar. They are so busy attacking you that you do not have a chance to point out their weaknesses. In this case, their defence mechanism from keeping themselves from getting attacked their self is a good offence.
Thinking about these things is what makes them stick. These defences seem initially useful such spouting off about what that person instead of giving a proper burial and going on with you. We have all had past hurts but this is now not then. Forgiveness is a good mind clutter tool, followed by forgetting the incident or incidents, and focusing on making room for new and better memories. If you can’t completely do this, then make some time in your day to think about it and only think about it then. Connections in the brain are strengthened by repetition. Another way to handle something that occupies your brain is to put off worrying about or thinking about something to later when it might be more important to resolve an issue.
Yes, sometimes we occupy our mind with worries so much so that we can’t get on with current projects.