Who are you? Everyone is different from birth. Lots of things that happen to us can change our perception of ourself. People around us expect us to be like them and as a child, we often don’t know any better. We all have different kinds of potential and that potential helps define our purpose in life. We often are so busy responding to the demands put on us by the outside, we have little time or opportunity to discover who we really are inside. Often we are caught up in doing what we think we should be doing but not really what reflects our purpose in life and uses our unique talents and abilities. Sometimes this is reflected an adolescent rebellion or in a midlife crisis and others don’t discover this until they are facing retirement.
Why people can’t change:
1. They would have to admit they were wrong about something.
2. They might have to make some other changes too.
3. It would take too much time.
4. They are waiting for somebody else to change first.
5. They would have to admit that they wasted time or money doing the wrong thing.
6. They might have to admit that somebody else was right and they were wrong or too much pride and too much emphasis on winning some type of competition.
7. Having to be always right even if it kills you.
Why they should change:
1. To stop putting money down a rat hole.
2. To become an example for somebody else.
3. To stop wasting time defending why they can’t change.
4. To save more time and money after investing some current time and money making a change.
5. To stop having to hide some deficiency from others.
6. To learn something new.
In the long run there are great benefits: For example, learning to drive as an adult. Erased my dependency on others. Gave me freedom.
Creativity creates creativity. If you can conceive of something, you are on the way to creating something. Before we thought some things had the probability of existing, they didn’t exist. For example, the four minute mile, that the earth is round, being able to send invisible messages through the air. Just think of the benefit that science fiction has been to developing the probability of things that we previously thought could not exist. For example, a man on the moon; exploring Mars by robot and sending the results back to earth.
If you don’t ask a question, you won’t get an answer. Most of the time the pathway to an answer is developed by asking questions, especially the right ones. For example, how do we create a three dimensional replica of something that is like a photograph or projected image of a film strip which is a two dimensional replica of something that can be sent across space. It is a hologram, the most notorous one recently has been of Michael Jackson dancing at an award presentation.
Is creativity limited by our imagination or is our imagination limited by our creativity? Would the things that have been created in this and the last century be considered magic and therefore evil by some people in the previous centuries? Something a person doesn’t understand and therefore can’t conceive of is often considered to be evil. Natives who saw sailing ships on the horizon from the shore in what are now called the Americas did not perceive them or recognize them as sailing ships as they had no previous experience with them. They had no conception of such a thing.
We, too, must expand our horizons. We must derive new possibilities from what we know and from them go on to derive even more fantastic possibilities. What if aliens from outer space made contact with natives in south america and egypt and gave them knowledge and skills which helped them build architectual marvels? How does that change what you think about what happened there and what future inventions might you hypothesize we might create from this?
Here we are constantly discovering marvelous possibilities that were limited by our previous ways of thinking until we made new discoveries about earth and the things on it and surrounding it. Here at home, we have canines that can smell things that we as humans, don’t, and can detect the presence of things we, humans can’t by smell. There are animals that can camouflage themselves by taking on the coloration and textures of their surroundings. What does that make you think about the stories of the possibilities of the invisible man?
Is your thinking sometimes counterproductive? Do you think the same old thing over and over and it doesn’t do a thing for you or your situation? Do your thoughts often block your creativity and productivity? How often do you think to yourself, “I can’t so why even try?” It always keeps you from doing anything about it.
Counterproductive thinking often keeps one from thinking out of the box which is sometimes necessary to think of a solution. Creativity is what it is all about. Instead of thinking of one solution (even if tried and true) for a problem, think of many even if they don’t all work out then you have “exercised” your creativity. I think the word is rigid for those who are stimmied when their planned for or go-to solution doesn’t work.
Some people have an incredibly difficult time changing gears when the first solution doesn’t work. I always say, “If not plan A, then plan B. If not plan B, then plan C and so on.” The world is not designed so that “one size” fits all situations. The brain continues to form new connections as long as you continue to use it. Grow with me Come share the excitement of a new ay of thinking, of possibility thinking.
Weddings are occasions when inevitably this type of problem occurs. There seems to be at least one snafu. The wrong wedding flowers arrive, the photographs don’t turn out, etc. You can grin and bear it or try another way. This ensures a happy occasion. The guests might even think that you planned it that way.
Good emotions bring good vibrations and bad emotions have bad vibrations. If vibrations effect you as some people say, what are you doing to yourself and others? How much of the news is good? How much is bad? When you talk about other people is it mostly to complain or find fault. When and if you pray is it about gratitude for something or lack of something?
Modern psychotherapy places much emphasis on changing the way you think and what you think about. Formerly psychotherapy often concentrated on what bad things had happened to you in the past and how they effected you in the present. Focusing on the bad things can at least make you a “bore”. It may make friends and family avoid you and may even make things worse. They are not written in stone and should be seen as something to move past and maybe even to change.
Thinking about the solution rather than the problem makes more sense. Perhaps you were abused as a child. Does thinking about it over and over change it? How often do you say, “I can’t”, and stay stuck in the problem and not the solution. Do not do what was done to you. Encourage problem solving in children at home, at work, or away from home.
Besides learning problem solving skills, you also can increase the amount of time that you think about good things. Where did that imagination go that you had as a child? You were able to imagine all sorts of wonderful things. How fast in your mind can you get to that perfect getaway spot and experience it in as many ways as possible using all of your senses? Having good vibrations is a good change from having constant bad vibrations.
Last, but not least is humor. We can all take a joke if it is not mean. Cancer patients may benefit from laughter and some have concentrated on watching funny movies as part of their battle against cancer.
Before the thing, comes the idea. Before the thing, comes the plans. Then comes the thing. Be inventive. Be creative. As they say, “Think outside of the box!”
Most of us get stymied at one time or another and have a problem, but no solution. Do you give up? I did. I have since learned to persevere and as a result, I get a lot more done. For example, housekeeping involves a lot of picking up stuff and putting it away. When you can’t figure what to do with something, you often stop what you are doing and go on to something else leaving what you were doing unfinished.
Use your imagination. Pause, take a deep breath, and wait for inspiration. Think of a new way of doing something and let the old way go. I realized recently that I had not been doing that. I’d usually just give up and not get what I was doing done.
It takes practice and practice makes perfect? It was a very self-defeating habit, giving up when I didn’t know what to do next. I thought I was stuck and couldn’t get unstuck. If you believe something, you will make it true. Believe you will find an answer and you will.
Do you bring up an obedient child who responds compliantly to commands? Or do you bring up a free spirit? Which is more important: the ability to fit into society and follow the directions of adults or a creative, free spirit? It may depend on one’s reasons for having children. In large families where there is a lot of work to be done and younger children to be taken care of the more obedient the child the better. In a small family or one blessed with only a single child, the parent may feel that he or she should let a child be a child for as long as they can. In the past, large families were common as parents could not easily choose when and if they had children. Also some parents feel it is Godly to procreate and expand God‘s family.
It is also important to have some knowledge of what a child is capable of doing at different ages. Pushing toilet training at too early of an age can lead to unfair harsh discipline of a child who can not yet control his or her bowels or bladder. Expecting an older child who is still a child him or herself to control younger siblings might lead to the abuse of his or her power or control over them. As children get older and they are given more priveledges as they are given more responsibilities, it becomes clear to them that they will benefit from this exchange
As much as possible children should be given the chance to choose what they do when it is appropriate. Some choices early on are determined by nature such as when they soil or wet themselves, whether they are hungry, and if they are sleepy. Infants don’t cry because they want to frustrate their parents. Children begin to use their senses and explore the world early on. Children should initially be given a safe place to do this. It is the foundation of a lot of their learning and reinforces creativity.
There are things about childhood that are unforgettable or at least they ought to be unforgettable. Children are little explorers. They are always seeing something new to them. They are always learning seemingly at the speed of light. They go from only expressing their needs non-verbally to verbally. Vocabulary grows ex-potentially. Watch out as soon they will learn to read and write. When do we stop growing like this or should we? It is a big world out there and it is conceivable that we should never stop learning. It helps with our problem solving skills. It expands our concept of the universe and the possibilities that we have to choose from. Both in the terms of goals and ways to do things.
Besides our curiosity, we have our imaginations. Little children quickly learn how to do things like talk on the phone. Part of this is mimicking what they see and hear and part of this is done by using their imaginations. When we imagine, we can be or do anything we want. The possibilities are endless. Most or all things that come into being in reality are first created in somebody’s mind. There are few or no limits on what the mind can imagine. Besides imagining things that don’t yet exist, we can imagine ways to do things that aren’t possible yet. Exercise your imagination and grow.
Imagination is a wonderful tool. It enables you to use your senses creatively. Children appear to develop imagination naturally. Observing toddlers (the ones I observe are between one and two years of age), I see incidents where they use their imaginations in play. One I see most frequently is talking on a phone, toy or real. They imitate what they see and hear almost instinctively. Imaginary play could be called a learning tool of childhood.
When creating something, use your imagination. Take the limits off of what you create. Generate a lot of ideas, let them sit and come back later to evaluate and tweak them. Avoid criticism at first. You are just seeing how many ideas you can generate even if some of them seem impractical or down right stupid. As a child, I used to create winning poppy posters for a veteran’s association by drawing as many possible posters as I could think of without inhibiting myself by thinking about whether they were good or bad. Eventually one of them would stand out and I would make that one. I also paid attention to what I could do to the poster to attract other people’s attention. Of course this mainly involved the sense of sight. For example, my posters were often 3D.
Day dream and use as many of your senses as possible. This will ultimately lead to the solution of a problem that not only meets your current needs, but also meets unforeseen future needs. Often we don’t think about something we want because we are afraid we might not get and it will break our heart. Actually it is more likely to make it happen. You generate ideas this way and ultimately one may lead to something that works.