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Your Own Bragging Rights

achievementself-loveDo you have your own bragging rights?  I’ve been afraid to have them.  The higher up you go, the farther you can fall.  That’s what I have always been told.  “The meek will inherit the earth,” is another one.  How about, “Be all you can be-in the Army.”  If we all live up to our God-given or inborn potential, will there be anything left for anybody else?  Potentially we can be or do almost everything if we want to.  We may not have the time in this lifetime to do it all.  But I would love to be able to pick and choose.  Parents say they want their children to do it better and have it better than they have.  But aren’t you the parent just a little bit jealous of your own child when this actually happens?

Sometimes the only bragging rights parents have are about their children and grandchildren.  Could it be like second hand smoke?  Everywhere around you and you can’t help breathing it in; but it does you no good.  Parents sometimes work themselves to death in order for their kids to have it better than they did and often the children do not appreciate what has been done for them.  Part of the problem has been that very rarely does the child want to do or have the exact same thing that the parent wants.  Do it yourself, don’t put everything off or postpone starting your life til after the children are gone.  Especially if you have done a lot for your kids, they may still be depending on you when they should be out on their own or worst yet, they expect you to do the exact same thing as you did for them for their kids.  Too much is too much and enough is enough.

Alright already.  Do your children make plans and share confidences that don’t include you?  You know they are having a good time; but you aren’t.  Are you missing out on something?  Create your own experiences, celebrate your own successes, develop your own tastes and appetite for adventure and success as you see it.  Develop your own bragging rights for things that you have or are doing that promote you.  Maybe it is not so bad to search for and find your own purpose in life or thrive on your own accomplishments.

Not only should you do something well, you should want to shine at it and you should try to do it better than even you expected.  Start now.  Don’t wait for an empty nest (or even to be widowed) or it may be too late then.  Exercise your bragging rights now especially to yourself by saying all those things you would like to hear.  Compliments are made, not born, and may not come easily when applied to oneself.  If we fear success and don’t even dare hope that we will do something spectacular, we leave room for others to do what we could do for ourselves.  Wives and mothers, do you wait til everyone else’s needs are to take any or do you not assert yourself because, it didn’t matter anyway and it keeps the peace.

Who are you?  Have you forgotten?  Have you discovered your hidden talents or have not done anything with them because you don’t think you are worth it? or don’t really have any talent as compared to other people you know who have done it?

The most highly defended is the greatest asset.  That’s why Rocket Risks (Motor Mouth Publishing) are worth it.
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Giving In Versus Taking For Granted

Which type of person are you?  Does it matter.  Each way seems the easy way out to the person who uses it.  Why fight for something when somebody won’t change their mind? I always do what I want to do or I don’t do it.  What price do we pay for making up our minds when they are closed to other ideas?  If you haven’t noticed, I am a mind reader.  No, not really!  When I do what I want to do, I am open to somebody telling me what to do instead.  Good advice?  Maybe.  Nobody knows everybody’s circumstances.  Some people give in rather than to fight the good fight.  Others seem to not think that maybe the other person or persons involved really want to do something else.  The squeaky wheel gets greased.

Conflicts can be over who gets to choose the place to eat or when to hit a rest stop when on a trip.  Family meals can please most of the group by offering sweet tea instead of soda or milk.  Pie may always be a favorite of both the children and adults in the group and leave cake lovers high and dry at every get together.  Rather than complain some people just “drop out” and/or make excuses for not coming to these gatherings.  Sometimes decisions are made because of a medical necessity such as frequent rest stops for a pregnant woman.  The rest of the time it just gets old and people suffer in silence and forget that they have any rights at all.

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I remember when it seemed that all smokers had the right of way and anyone who opposed them was going against their rights.  Today it is the other way around.  Smokers have to give in to other people who do not want to breathe second hand smoke.  I remember tearing up in a smoke filled room and being told to just take my contacts out.  What was the problem?  I was wearing my glasses at the time.

Maybe we should take turns or develop some kind of compromise.  There are smokers in my night class who can’t go three hours without a cigarette.  Now we take two five minute breaks breaking up the class periods into three approximately equal class periods.  Now I see many smokers stepping outside when they want to smoke even in their own homes.give&take.php

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