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Some Symptoms And Causes Of Shopping Addiction (Onionmania)

She appears SCARED!

Recently I came across a paperback book called Shopping Addiction by Caesar Lincoln. It had some good points to make about shopping addictions. If you think you have a shopping addiction or know someone who has a shopping addiction, these points might interest you.

People with a shopping addiction can not control how they spend their money for various reasons. One reason is to get a thrill out of spending money. This is often connected with wanting others to notice how much money the thrill-seeker can spend often on an object or activity.  Sometimes the compulsive shopper just picks up the random item to get the thrill of buying something.  When presented with the situation in which the compulsive shopper can spend money, they have a hard time controlling themselves. This is all without regard to how much money they are spending even if it means breaking the budget (actually most compulsive shoppers do not have a budget or somebody else controls the budget.).

Some compulsive shoppers have the urge to buy (sometimes high-priced items) for their collections. They are particularly hyped-up if they have found a rare, but often expensive, item to add to their collection. I did this with my ex-husband. We collected colored antique pressed glass. I still have items in boxes instead of on display as I have run out of room. (In my second marriage I can only think of two things I have bought for my collection. )  Instead, I channeled my collecting to second-hand stores and resale shops.

Compulsive shopping can be caused when a compulsive shopper has been brought up in a family situation where the money for the items deemed as unnecessary is low. Basic bills for existence are often met but the frills are few and far between. That somewhat fits me for my growing up. We then had a budget with little room for excessive spending on things than I could like boughten clothes versus homemade ones. I dreamed that one day that I could buy those things at full price (No waiting for sales). I have more bought things than I could reasonably use like clothes on sale so now I have more clothes than I can fit in my dressers. I have plastic totes full. It would have been more practical to be able to try on clothes to see if they flattered me or fit me but most of them I ordered online and didn’t want to bother to return them. I have trouble too getting rid of clothes even if they don’t suit me or fit me.  I would have been better trying on clothes and making outfits.

Shopping addicts can even buy and save bargain items for household use. Again how many paper towels can a household reasonably use in six months to a year. Here are the reasons for shopping addiction that I found in this book in my own words.  Yes, a shopping addiction can result in clutter, even in hoarding.  Shopping addicts seem to try to buy admiration of others by buying status objects for themselves or by spending money on others they can’t afford or they give away items that are hard even expensive to replace.  Shopping addiction can put pressure on a relationship. What is interesting as an example I can give an example of a marriage where a couple in their previous marriages had the opposite roles of spending and budgeteer and then when they remarried they traded places.  Money appeared to be a thing over which they fought for control.  It seemed to be funny that this happened in their second marriage.

There are twelve-step groups for compulsive spenders, but they are mostly in metropolitan areas.   You could look it up on the Internet for Debitors Anonymous.