Are you pining for a punk? You might be if your story is part of the content of a scandal sheet. Being recently confined for illness, my friend gave me a buch of scandal sheets. Whether I knew them or not, I found a common theme, recent breakups and connections between famous people. They have everything, shouldn’t their relationships work out?
How they treat each other is outrageous! When under the influence of first Love, it appears that they can’t see straight! Faults are glossed over and relationships are formed immediately without much time to get to know the other person, faults and all. They have the ways and means with which to get over involved. Common sense goes out the window. When things come down crashing down (reality rears its ugly head), there is surprise and obvious grieving for something that wasn’t to be in the first place.
Falling in love is not supposed to be a revolving door. Test the waters and see if you want some more. In these relations ships, it is just too easy to leave and find someone else eager to be the new LOVE. Doing this seems to mean that the new person is some type of winner and not the loser they might be. Just because you are choosy doesn’t mean you are a loser because someday you might pick the winner and avoid messy relationships with people that don’t go anywhere.
Fame, money are very attractive. Yet somebody with a great talent may not have much to offer other than that. It is hard to mix that kind of glamourise life with success in the real world. Whatever attracted him or her to you might wear off and leave you high and dry. Cheating proliferates in this type of world and is supposed to be tolerated complete with possible STD’s.
Relationships turn into a kind of a game with one-up-manships proliforating. Security does not exist and when a crisis occurs, the sufferer is usually left high and dry. What do you want a glamourse red carpet evening dress that you have to be sewn into or a practical comfortable attractive outfit that you can wear over and over? Relationships are that way too. Even though he or she is not to your taste and you are not his or her taste, doesn’t mean you are a failure. You both just avoided a big mistake.
Watched a discussion of what a politician did this week and how it turned out for him. There has been and still is a big conflict over leaks in President Trump’s administration. Then one of his close advisors enabled information about his personal opinion of what this administration is doing wrong to be accidentally by leaked someone on the left who he forgot to tell that he was talking confidentially and it got out.
Curiously another former staff member of President Trump made some very obcene comments about a staff member in the White House just before he got canned. Should have both these men have known better? These men both had been involved with dealing with the media and with dealing with leaks in the White House.
It seems that information about the President and his administration should be confidential and he will decide with input from his trusted? staff what to release. Shouldn’t his advisors ask to see the President in order to tell him their concerns and this should be confidential and not released to the media by them only by the President?
Doesn’t this pattern fit recent staffers who recently got fired or resigned? In many places of business, employees are supposed to keep their mouths shut about what goes on in the business. For example. banks, law offices, and mental health facilities.One staffer went so far as to take notes of a conversation with the President and had a friend leak them to the press. This was just before he got fired. Don’t I see a lot of sour grapes here? Wt happened to ethics and keeping the law while in public service?
Mercy Me,if I can see through this, why can’t you? Ordinary people can see through this. What do they think we are dupes? easily fooled and manipulated. Sometimes it is just better to keep your mouth shut especially if you want to keep it secret. Also, don’t you think it is media’s job to notice this and figure out what is going on?
Does it make sense to say life has no sense? Science has theories about life which it proves or disproves. Things we thought were inanimate and dumb actually are not that way. Animals are miraculous animate beings with strengths and skills we have never thought of. Not only are they necessarily not like you, they have their own ways of thinking, communicating and viewing the world. Even plants react to certain stimuli. What about us?
Are we blocking abilities because we think we don’t have them? Who are you really inside? We are fearfully and wonderfully made it says in the Bible. Why do we often reject that? Does everything happen for a reason but we think that we are unable to figure this out.
We are unique individuals. We all have strengths and talents as well as weaknesses. Why do we compete with each other when we can do so much more together? Why do we constantly pattern ourselves against some other person’s standards and achievements?
When I was trying to decide on my career (the most important path in my life at that time). I did not discern and value my own unique qualities. I was always encouraged to consider what other people would think. Individuality was lost in the shuffle. I accomplished many things but society did not pat me on my back and my family had no idea about what I was doing.
Now the meaning of life is to determine your path in life and to allow yourself to meander a little. Also be a little bit forgiving of yourself especially in this critical, hypocritical world. We must combat these forces that hold us back and act as brakes on our vehicle of life. Criticism, fault-finding, and belittling other people as a way of building themselves up by other people holds us all back.
The world is full of manipulations and plots to keep us from reaching our destiny. The average fault-finders only want to build themselves up, not you. This sabotages cooperation and promotes the power and wealth of a few. Their motto is there is not enough to go around and I am going to get mine before you can take it from me. What a grand scheme for these peoples’ lives which leads to substance abuse, relationships that may sabotage them and be unfulfilling, and a focus on things, not relationships. They are not to be trusted and because of this, they think that everybody else can not be trusted. What a flimsy throne that kind of ideology can make. They focus on things that can not make them happy in the long run and backfire. Remember how Scrooge ended up in The Christmas Carol.
Thoughts on how to “Getter Done”. (Do as I say; don’t do as I do!)
Don’t think it; do it! How many times do you think of something without following it through? Have you been cluttering up your mind by thinking of what needs to be done? Remember don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today!
If you see it; do it. Do you think you are starting to become a hoarder? Don’t question your judgment. This happens for me with the clothes of both myself and my husband. I am afraid, I will regret my decision later. I either need to throw them out, give them away, or put them away. Don’t leave it til another day.
Are you surrounded from the past and the present by people who question your decisions. In the long run, this just makes you look like a person who can’t make up his or her mind and leaves more reason for criticism. Remember these people, operate on the principle, “Don’t look at me, look at him or her”.
Don’t put it off. If you can put it off, pick a day to do it before it will be overdue. I do this with taxes. I set a tax date with our accountant and focus on taxes the two weeks before. If you do put it off and have to pay for it, just chuck it up to experience and do better next time.
If you go ahead and do it, do a little more each time than just what is necessary.
When you do something, throw yourself into it. If it worth doing something, it is worth doing right. Remember, being a critic is an easy job. You don’t have to help somebody or even think about it.
You can practice making decisions or do something a different way or even teach yourself how to do something so you don’t have to ask someone else. This happens to me with new appliances. I don’t read the instruction book. If you have lost it, you can find it online. Then if it is broken or missing a piece or has poor instructions (The people who right the instruction books are not the people who have to use them. Has the person who has written the instructions put themselves in your shoes or asked a person who has never used it before to try and use these instructions?
Before throwing old gadgets away that have never been used Take some time to try to make them work but throw them away if they don’t work.
Remember to reward yourself for what you get done, not what you leave undone. The person that is most likely to notice that you have done something is yourself.
How many projects don’t look like something until they are completely done? Have you every watched someone put something together and it is not until is finished that a person can determine if it works or if it looks like anything? If you are the person trying to do this, reward yourself either way because you can dispose of something if it is useless and can’t be made to work anymore. Give it the old heave-ho.
Don’t overthink it. Is the task worth the extra time you spend on trying to get it right? Remember practice makes perfect. Children don’t do this. When they have an idea when they are playing, they just do it.
I have spoken about mind clutter. Now you know you can do something about it and you can use that time to fly-fish or meditate bother productive tasks! You can even make your downtime productive and do things you didn’t have a chance to do.
My mother had one good rule. As a young daughter, I had many “projects” and instead 0f having me put everything away at the end of the day, she had me group my tools and materials together and put them up somewhere (this also kept people from tripping over them) where I could go get them and work on it another day. This also kept me from losing them and having to find everything again I needed the next day.
Stop doing things that you don’t think are necessary like making your bed in the morning instead of straightening the covers before you go to sleep. My mother (God Bless Her Soul) used to iron the sheets. Who does that anymore? Remember bedrooms in advertising have been staged to make them look neat clean and very desirable. Bedrooms don’t look like that only if you have rented one in a hotel and you are just coming in the door.
Best suggestion I have ever heard. If you are having surprise company, before you go to the door stick your vacuum in the middle of the floor like you have just started to clean the room or turn your Roomba on. I don’t know about you, but my vacuum is already in the living room by the front door as we don’t have a coat closet. See; I am ready for anything.
If you are doing something, just do it. Don’t think about what you did not do yesterday or what you have to do tomorrow. It is a good idea to have a notepad handy (either electronic or paper) on which to write things down that you want to remember but can’t do anything about now. YHow about trying to learn Lincoln’s Gettysburg address and loading the dishwasher. Now I can sing or listen to hymns while I work because I might want to sing them in church someday as a “special”.
Children are like African violets. (A type of small very ticklish house plant which housewives of my mother’s generation raised.) They are very sensitive in terms of their response to the environment in which they are planted. Children were known to die in orphanages when they were physically taken care of but not emotionally taken care of. Yet some people give more attention to the African violets in their life than to their children.
As each African violet is individual in its needs for light and air and moisture so is each child individual in his or her needs for attention, love, and support. When this is neglected, the plant or child withers and dies inside if not outside like the plant. The payoff of proper care can be great in either case.
Perhaps one can afford to lose many African violets in this process but not even one child. Children can be resilient but still, can be greatly damaged and become of little use to themselves and furthermore to the society that child dwells in.
Moisture, light, and soil and the addition of fertiliser is needed for a violet to grow; but what is needed for a child to grow in the right direction? Love, support, attention, and unconditional love appear to be necessary for this to happen.
Caregivers can not neglect one child while caring for another, This has been shown to happen when a child has a seriously ill sibling. This child needs attention and care too especially if this child gets neglected while the ill child gets urgently needed care.
The sibling does not need to be seriously physically ill to take attention and care away from another sibling. Some children are more attractive to one or both of the parents than other children. How important is it for a parent to have an athlete or gymnast or beauty queen or a scholar over a wallflower, a geek, or any child who is not particularly gifted or attractive
Worse yet are parents who really shouldn’t have any children (P.S. I am not opting for abortion, but I am a champion of adoption in these cases). Sadly what welfare does sometimes does not necessarily encourage parents to be actively involved in bringing children up right.
Wealth is not necessarily the main factor in bringing children up right. The things that are needed to do this often can’t be bought. They often cost more time than money. First is unconditional love which occurs when a person often gives another person love no matter what he or she does or says.
Children need support, not just physical support, but emotional support. A child can do well at something, but this accomplishment might be ignored and/ or at least not supported emotionally by the family or guardian. The child can say to themselves, “Oh, what’s the use?” if the effort that he or she puts into something is unnoticed and they receive little or no help with it on top of that!
Prize winning entries at the county fair can go unnoticed and wining or losing a coveted position on a team or in a play can also be ignored. “You did what?, when said, demonstrates that at least part of a child’s life has gone unnoticed. Worse yet, a child can be hurt or sick and this goes unnoticed until the child is in serious jeopardy.
Psychological needs that go unmet can cause great harm to some children. Children that survive such circumstances can be very resilient but those who don’t are a drain on society and can be lost. Too often the people who make these decisions are incompetent as well. The judge in my family says that custody decisions in his court are given to the least competent to decide.
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Every time I think that the Little PEOPLE are getting ahead, I realise they aren’t. I was very happy with the recent election because I felt that the new administration was supporting the middle class that was no longer the middle class under the current, soon past administration.
What I have recently realised is that I have joined the lower class (once working class or even middle class in many situations). We are squeaking by on social security and disability payments (which have been borrowed from to pay other government expenses) and have to seek help like free food from The Master’s Hand locally. Also in this area, if you have farm income (that counts against you as it is considered income before farming expenses are taken out) in terms of getting any extra government help.
Most of us would contribute something to the economy if there was a way we could. Most of us would like to have a voice in the new administration. For example, most of Illinois voted for the new administration except for the heavily populated urban areas. But where is our voice? No one campaigned in our areas and we feel that no one has listened to our concerns. What do you think? Are there other areas of our country in the same shape?
Also who is the voice of the forgotten little people? On the network that supported the election of the new administration, we are not represented. They are again relying on experts who have no real life experience or it is so far in the remote past that they don’t remember it or so far removed from it, it doesn’t matter anymore.
Also, there is pressure on these experts, especially women, to conform to certain standards not representative of the men and/or do not reflect what ordinary people look like. It is nice for some of us to remain “young” and look youthful but is not the way most people look and it is easier to see the standards for men are less stringent than for women.
For example, most woman experts on this network look like they are ready to go to a cocktail party instead of a business occasion. Yes, the men are nicely and appropriately dressed but they don’t have to struggle as much as women do to appear appropriately presentable, youthful and beautiful.
When are the Little PEOPLE going to be represented? The overall wearing, wearing second-hand clothing, or in “high style” Wal-Mart, but often foreign made, clothing? We have a lot to say and we don’t have a lot we can do about our situations but suffer. Welfare often misses us and as our social security or retirement checks do not raise, but inflation and the cost of living does and as things cost more and more, we have to get by on less and less with little or no representation in or help from society or the government!
The Little PEOPLE do have something to say! We have learned something through experience. We do have “philosophical” discussions. We can see things others more fortunate and potentially more powerful don’t.
Certainly how Little PEOPLE experience life has something to say about the type of life we are promoting for all! Often as people do better and better economically, they tend to put people down who haven’t and consider their opinions useless and their motivations feckless! Also other people who have done well often think the same way and might make fun of those who don’t. How many Little People do you see in certain churches or certain social groups like the Elks? Nuff said.
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