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Contact Comfort–Affection, Touching Build A Connection Between Two People

rp_300px-Friendship_love.JPGI once attended a cancer support group at a hospital as an invited speaker.  I did something I had never done before and have not done again.  I don’t know why.  Maybe lack of confidence in myself and my abilities.

What I did was bring a bottle of hand lotion and had each of us massage each others’ hands with the lotion, finger by finger, in the center of the palm and on the back of the hand and all around the wrist.  I was gentle.  We all were.  It was relaxing and comforting and it made us all feel like part of the group.

Later I joined a church where foot washing of each others’ feet was part of a ceremonial “meal” conducted twice a year at Easter time and Thanksgiving like Jesus had done to the disciples at Passover.   I was somewhat embarrassed and uncomfortable, but I did it and allowed it to be done to me.  I never did it again.

How little are we afraid to reveal to others so much so we won’t touch each other in a loving and caring way unless the being receiving the care is paying for it (manicures and pedicures and often unsatisfying massages).

Touching is often used a passage way to our most vulnerable parts with little or no intention to nurture, comfort, support, or protect?  Is this why much of the physical contact we get as an adult is so compromising and sometimes unsatisfying especially for women.

P.S.:  My friend gives the most satisfying scalp massages when she shampoos my hair at her salon.

What do you think?

 

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