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Interacting with Children

Children from a village in Bihar, India

Children from a village in Bihar, India (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The earlier you start interacting with the children, the better.  It is amazing what can happen if you just pay attention.  Little children are eager to learn and gobble up all the information that is presented to them.  It can not start too soon.  Babies should be out where the action is unless it is time for a nap.  When awake, they need to be stimulated and included in what is going on.  Give them a good start and avoid problems later on.

Children play games in which they interact with adults.  Children respond to the facial expressions and vocal inflections of adults.  They love to cuddle, wrestle, and be tickled.  Yes, sometimes they can be over stimulated but things can easily be toned down when this happens.  Children also play games with each other.  When certain patterns of behavior are repeated and shared with another child, it can be seen that they are stimulating each other.  Older children can interact with younger children by “teaching” them things.  Just don’t say things like, “Big boys don’t play with babies.”  Also they should be where a caregiver can watch them as sometimes older children can be too rough with younger children even when they aren’t being mean.

If you raise children this way and let them have a lot of interaction with other children and adults, they can develop self-confidence and also self-control.  Don’t have children if you don’t want to spend any time with them or if you plan to leave them for other adults to raise.

 

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Difficulties with Paying Attention

Excuse me, when I wrote about a three step process for learning to control feelings and impulsive behaviors in my earlier post, Supersonic Feelings, I did not discuss how difficult this was to do without the help of a therapist doing this work.  Also self-control which can be assumed to be very useful in doing this is not fully developed until early adulthood in most people and never developed or only partially developed in others, a number of which could be diagnosed as having AD/HD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder)

Adolescents’ brains are not fully mature until late adolescence or young adulthood and as one result, they have difficulty delaying gratification and often impulsively seek immediate rewards rather than controlling themselves in favor of a long-term goal with future greater rewards and  thus avoiding some life changing consequences.  Possibly because of this, setting ages as young as 16, 18, and even 21 as the ages at which a teenager or young adult can handle certain responsibilities might not be a good idea.  Also if teens as young as this are making these sometimes life changing decisions, they should be better educated as to what these decisions entail and the long-term consequences.

Adults as well as children with AD/HD are often easily distracted and have problems focusing their attention on things or activities more than other people.  Disorganization and restlessness are two other common symptoms of this disorder.  Impulsivity can also be a problem for people like this. Medication and psychotherapy are recommended  forms of treatment.

 

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