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the+true+secret+of+giving+advi-655I love you; I accept you; I praise you.  Can you say that to anyone? including yourself?

When something happens that I am concerned about, I pray about it;  I try to think  positively about it; and I tell myself that I will accept whatever happens.  That is my advice for the day.  I didn’t say it was easy; but it is all I can think of to tell myself to do.  It took me a while to get to this point and I am not completely there yet.  I often have to remind myself of my own advice.  In the past, I was worried that my prayers wouldn’t be heard; I couldn’t stop myself from thinking about the worst thing that could happen; and I had a hard time accepting if it did not turn out well from my point of view.

Often I have a hard time accepting the idea that if something is wrong for me, it might still be a good choice for someone else.  Sometimes people just don’t take my advice and they probably shouldn’t because they probably wouldn’t see it my way anyway.  If I won’t join or support a certain organization or they wouldn’t recommend that I go somewhere for vacation based on their experience of having gone there, maybe each of us anyway should make up our own minds for ourselves.    This reminds me of what I used to think when I was in college and taking classes.  It was that just because someone liked or disliked a certain teacher didn’t necessarily mean that I would have the same experience.

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There Is No Accounting For….Part II

English: me and my friend

English: me and my friend (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

People sometimes handle people like they do finances in my previous post.  They are often found getting others to take their side and listen to their story.  These other people might even fight their battles for them.  They are takers, not givers.  They forget to pay their debts of friendship and may even betray their current friend when something better comes along.  The relationship can be one sided and the benefits are all going one way.  Instead of repaying their debt, the takers move on when something better comes along and may forget that their former friend even exists.

There are two sides to every issue.  Your fair weather friend seems misunderstood and you rescue them.  Often found when one half of a divorce or separation tells people in new relationships that they make that the new person or persons is not like the previous person that they had the unsatisfactory relationship with.  When they turn on you (if they do) you will be just like their ex and they will be talking about you in negative ways, revealing things that you thought they would keep secret, (except for this) forgetting that you ever existed.  No returned phone calls, unexplained irrational behavior, not showing up for planned events, leaving you holding the bag if money and expenses were involved.  Then their friends and family (if they are still talking to you) come out of the woodwork and tell the whole story about what this person is like and what they have done in the past.

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Jack of all Trades

Jack of all trades, master of none?  If you could tell someone what was important to learn in life?  What would you tell them?  Many men are expected to be mechanics and handymen around the house.  Many women are expected to be able to cook, clean, and do the laundry.  With the changing of sex roles, both may soon need to know how to do both types of skills, housewifery,

Skills Like This

Skills Like This (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

and car and house repair. It has now come to the point with the necessity for two income households that both men and women should be able to hold a job.  Don’t forget driving, being able to use a computer, knowing how to use a mobile phone and other electronic devices as necessary skills in this present time..  Most everyone would say parenting is one of the most important skills to learn.  What about relationship skills, how to get along with others, how to communicate well with others, and how to form social relationships such as friendships, and sexual and romantic relationships.  Last, but not least, what also seems important to discover  is what is our relationship to the world, other people, and God (whatever form that takes for you).

What things are taught in schools, what things do parents attempt to teach their children, what things are taught in churches or other religious settings, and what things are people just expected to learn by living life.  Too often, we just let the most important things that we need to know in life go.  Who or what teaches us about these things, strangers on the street, on the web, or on TV?   Often we do not think about things like values and let someone or something else by default teach either us or our children what our values, if any, should be.  Let’s go further what is our purpose in life?  Why are we here? Agnostic, Atheist, Muslim, Christian, Hindu  or Jew , all have answers to this question.  Do you?

 

 

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