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Success and Fear

the-greatest-barrier-in-success-is-the-fear-of-failureSuccess and fear.  Are they related?  How could you have one and the other as well.  Well, you can.  For example, if you are a success, it could mean that you will have to perform like a success.  If you are a success doing one thing, then you might be expected to be a success at doing other things as well.  If you are a success once, you might be expected to repeat it a second, a third, or a multitude of times.   If you are a success, you might be expected to look like a success, live like a success,etc.  If you are a success, you might be expected to be happy.  If you are a success then someone else might try to compete with you.  If you are a success then the competition increases it becomes more difficult to be a success.  If you are a success and then you fail, you might feel worse than if you had never succeeded at all.success-churchill-550x240

 

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Therapy, When Is It Over?

Personality and Psychotherapy - John Dollard a...

Personality and Psychotherapy - John Dollard and Neal E. Miller (Photo credit: gwenboul)

Therapy, is it over too soon?  Therapy has been designed to solve problems and once they are solved, therapy is over.  Right?  Medicine has this problem too and once an illness is taken care of, there appears to be no need for further help.

People have come to realize that there is more to life than just not being sick.  If you have been depressed and get over it, wouldn’t you also like to be happy and enjoy life?   When it comes to medicine, many people want to be in the best health they can be. They want to be able to enjoy physical activity, to be successful at sports, and to be in the best physical shape they can be.    A whole new occupation has developed because of this.  It is that of a physical trainer.  This is now becoming true in mental health.  The new occupation is that of a life coach.

A life coach is more active and less passive than most therapists.  They help people define life goals, plan how to achieve them, and help them reach them.  The aim of such goals is to develop a happier, more successful person.  Few people want to just exist.   They want to remove the obstacles that are keeping them from being all they can be. The focus is not so much on weaknesses as on strengths, not so much on being able to do again what one has always done as on being able to do things they never would have attempted before.

Therapists are now beginning to realize that there must be something more to successful counseling than just curing mental illness.  Many are studying to be life coaches.  Some do this and change careers and others find room for both approaches in their work as a therapist.

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