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Does Your Conscience Get You Down?

rp_300px-Clouds-8.JPGI am proud to be a moral person, not an amoral person; but this can lead to self-judgment and the feeling at the end of the day that you did something that might have offended others that you weren’t particularly proud of when you thought about it later..

You can become preoccupied with such possible mistakes to the point that it may spoil your day.  You may go to sleep ruminating about what you think you did wrong and it may ruin an otherwise acceptable day.

pebbles_ripples_pondChock that one up to experience and vow to think before you do it again, but let it go.  If you are that concerned, then you have already learned your lesson and surprise, surprise, the other person or persons may not have been upset at all or didn’t even notice it.

We all have an early-warning system like this once we decide to treat others like we would like to be treated.

 

How Easily Intimidated Are You?

taking-advice-badgeDo you do what is right even if other people will think it is wrong?  Will you do what other people think is wrong when you know it is right?  How easily intimidated are you?

How well do you stand up for yourself or others when this happens?  Are you easily shamed or guilted into doing something that makes you personally uncomfortable  even at your own personal expense.  When the rolis called up yonder and you go before the ultimate judge (yourself) how will you fare?  How many things will you have missed out on?   How many chances will you have passed by to do what you knew was the right thing but didn’t have enough courage to do?

What will you have sacrificed to make others happy by letting them get away with abusing your time trying to convince you that they are right when you know they are wrong.  Giving up being joyful and happy so that others who will never learn anything the hard way can escape the consequences of their behavior.  Do you sometimes feel life is a drag especially when you go along with other peoples’ preferences instead of your own especially if those choices will make you uncomfortable and continue to suck the joy out of your life.11478115084_52613dd791_z

Worse yet you go against your own internal moral code in order to conform to societies expectations and generalizations about “correct” behavior that could be be and might be applied to your behavior.  Are you willing to be punished for doing something you know is really “right” even if it goes against the codes of  others?

How independent are your standards both for yourself and others.  Are you willing to spend time with someone who is boring but doesn’t know it because other people often let him or her get away with it.  Would you spend time with someone who has few friends but who would appreciate getting your time or do you follow the crowd and do the same old thing that you do every time you go out instead?  What does your intuition say you should do?

Here I Am, I Can Not Do Otherwise

rp_182075622_e2c5a99240_m.jpgDo you stand up for yourself especially when it means going it alone.  Unconditional love can be hard to find.  And when you give unconditional love, you may not get it back.  Risky isn’t it?  Condemnation comes more easily than acceptance.  Do you want to hurt someone before they can hurt you?  Babies and puppies and kittens can be very trusting and can give their affection without realizing that they might get hurt by doing it.  Back in the teenage years and later as a young adult, a person may not have wanted to make the first move when dating for fear of being rejected.  Rejection can be a very dangerous thing if you are small.  Who can you depend on to meet the needs that you can’t yet meet for yourself?  Do you know at that age that the rejection most likely won’t last and you will be secure again?   What stock of experiences stored in his or her memory does a child have to depend on to be sure that  he or she is will be safe and will be accepted and cared for once again.  Love withdrawal because of this is a dangerous form of discipline.  It is the act that is disliked not the person but the child doesn’t know that.

When a child starts having a peer group, that is another place where a child can suffer from rejection.  Child often learn to quickly gang up on another child and by rejecting that child, make his or

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herself feel more secure.  Isn’t being ostracized or shunned often the worse thing that can happen to a person.  How often do we look around at the people in the group that we are in to determine what is the safe thing to do or say?  For example which is safest? being a Christian or being a Muslim or for being for abortion versus being against it.  Isn’t it often that the person that says what other people are afraid to say is the person that is doing the right thing.  Worse yet you can be killed by standing out from a crowd in this way and such uncalled for slaughter is often a satisfactory way of warding off dissent.

rp_8402039996_b8ea3fb471_m.jpgSometimes aren’t animals more loyal and self-sacrificing than humans?  In this case which one the animal or the human is more moral?  Humans can be self sacrificing and share all they have with others in their group.  Giving can be more satisfying than receiving.  I have a wonderful spiritual friend who just bubbled over when it was suggested to her that the most fun in the world would be to be able to give people something they really wanted and couldn’t ordinarily have.

Even some murderers and many other  wrong doers have some sort of a conscience and this is often what trips them up and gets them caught.  There are, however, people out there often called psychopaths or sociopaths who do not even have a remnant of a conscience and can get away with doing horrendous things because there they have no conscience.  Role models are important in the building of a conscience.  If somebody does something for you that they don’t have to do and is even self-sacrificing, you may want to imitate them because when they behave this way they make you feel good.

Life for me is making a closer and closer approximation to a person who believes that other men are his or her brothers and sisters and that certain “truths” rp_The_Meaning_of_Life_with_Gay_Byrne.jpgare worth standing up for and fighting for.  I know when I am not living up to this standard and I believe I have been purposely put on earth to do this.  Current studies of animal behavior also demonstrate loving and caring behavior in such nonhuman animals as dolphins and elephants as well.  Here I stand, I can not do otherwise (Martin Luther).