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Courage Is Not Always Just a Masculine Trait

The famous "The Buck Stops Here" sig...

The famous "The Buck Stops Here" sign from President Harry Truman's desk. The reverse of the sign says "I'm From Missouri". (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When people grow up, they should develop both their masculine and feminine sides.  This is often forgotten when a father has the desire to have a “real boy” and the son has anger issues because of his father wanting to have a “tough” kid and reinforcing such behaviors.  Having softer feelings, being sentimental, and certainly not crying, are not encouraged by this type of father.  Feminine girls are often handled in almost the completely opposite way.  I definitely surprised my older brother in early grade school when I tore in to a kid that was beating up on him.  Anger is often considered the appropriate emotion for boys and men to have when they are upset and in the same situation, girls are expected to cry.  I was also brought up to believe that when a catastrophe occurs that women are supposed to make and serve coffee and sandwiches while men do the “real” work.  You can guess that when the river was going to flood my college campus what I did.  I filled sand bags.

Thus I found that as I grew up, that there were situations in which I had to take charge and do the right thing and I could not wait around for another person, especially a man, to come around and take charge for me.  “The buck stops here,” was the new motto of the day.  I learned that when something goes wrong and you are “it”,  you can’t always wait for someone else to come and help do anything.  I surprised myself by what I could do when I had to.  Some of those times were my most valued experiences as I matured.

There are times when you (yes, you women) have to deal with dangerous situations and be very careful not to upset the apple cart.  You might not be able to win if there was a physical fight but you can sometimes side step a dangerous confrontation by using your head.  I am not suggesting that you put yourself purposefully in such a situation to prove yourself; but to remind you that it can happen. Using both the masculine and the feminine side is sometimes the best solution in such situations. We can’t always leave it to the men to take care of such problems and before I get in trouble, men can’t always leave it to the women when a women’s touch is needed.



President Harry Truman with "The Buck Sto...

President Harry Truman with "The Buck Stops Here" sign on his desk (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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