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Drama Queen

The drama queen, everything is all about her (or him).  Get a new grandchild, all the pictures are of her holding the new baby.  The occasion might also bring on stories about her child’s birth and delivery instead of the new mother’s.  The outfit (new or old) chosen by the drama queen has to be worn home or to the christening.  When things don’t go her way, she can’t cope.  Sudden tragedies involving the drama queen’s family throw her for a loop as she hasn’t planned for them.  It is difficult for the rest of the family to concentrate on the victim (not her) and what actually needs to be done.

The drama queen has developed what she deems as the ideal scenario for her life:  loving, devoted husband; dream home; successful, supportive children who marry someone of the opposite sex and of the chosen racial and cultural background and have the requisite child or children of the appropriate sex or sexes.  Plans are usually not made for any deviance from this plan.  The chances that something like this will happen are almost 100%.  There is only plan A; there is no plan B, C, or D.

Most of the time the problems, not hers, that this causes are other peoples’ and they deal with them instead of her.  Total collapse can occur when she has to deal with her own problems and there is no one to do it for her.  For example, when she has to adjust to something like the loss of the mate she depended on and focused her life around.  The denial defense often used by the drama queens fails and reality hits.

Lisa the Drama Queen

Lisa the Drama Queen (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

 

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Who Or What Determines Your Mood?

Health Insurance Does Not Insure Health

Health Insurance Does Not Insure Health (Photo credit: SavaTheAggie)

 

 

 

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could choose your mood? and not someone else or something else?  Feelings are catching.  The other day it was Obamacare and the rising cost of insurance leading to the fear of not being able to afford to carry medical insurance and doing without.  It was very upsetting to think about and anyway not a very constructive thing to do.  It is not that I don’t think it could happen, but why be miserable and worry about it when it has not happened yet.  Also the politicians responsible for this potential problem are not and never were worried about it and besides if it happened, it wouldn’t be a problem for them as they have already made sure that they will be covered and/or could afford the increased cost of medical insurance.  Misery loves company.  When one person gets upset about something like this, they want to share the problem with others.

Then there is the sniper, the person who from out of no where says something to you that cuts to the quick and goes merrily on their way while you are bleeding to death.  Consider the source, this may not be the first time this has happened to you with this person.  Are you going to let that person ruin your day? especially when he or she will deny that he or she had any intention of doing so.

Let go and let God.   Just because someone else is upset, do you need to get upset too?  When somebody has bad intentions and denies them, do you let them get away with it.  Not only do you wind up feeling bad, but also you can’t justify it on the grounds that the other person says that they didn’t mean anything by what they said.

 

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