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Should You Make Your Own Commandments?

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady
Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)

You have heard of the ten commandments.  There are also the seven deadly sins:  pride, greed, envy, lust, sloth, gluttony, and wrath which go even further.  Have you set standards for yourself as well as others.  It is easier

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady

Seven Deadly Sins by Rox Steady (Photo credit: dingler1109)


to develop a set of standards for others to follow than to create standards of your own.  You can usually identify those that you set for others by paying attention to what “makes” you angry or feels unfair or by identifying what you would like others to do (knowing at some level) that this would make life easier for you.

In moral development, establishing a set of standards of your own for yourself is one of the later stages.  You can identify the origin of some of these by what you think you “should” do.  These are sometimes “guilted” on you by others.  What can you do make them your own?  This requires some introspection on your part.  If you don’t like something another person has done, do you feel it is right for you to do this?  Judging others reveals what we are afraid might be judged in ourselves.  It also reveals the areas where we might expect better of ourselves and the standards we might set for ourselves.  Do you think that you could be an example for others?  Shouldn’t you judge both yourself and others by the same standards?  Better yet, maybe you better clean up the messes in your own back yard instead of complaining about your neighbor’s.

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Jealousy, Envy

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Can feelings make us miserable?  Yes, they can.  When you focus on what you do not have that others have, most often it makes us feel bad.  It is sometimes hard for us to be happy for others when they have something that we would like to have ourselves.  Joy! does not have to be selfish.  We can appreciate what others have gotten or accomplished when we have a similar goal or goals ourselves.  From that point of view, we can be happy for others.  When I was first trying to get pregnant, my much younger cousin succeeded before I did.  I had a choice:  be happy for her or rain on her parade.  There were two different points of view that I could have had.  I could have been jealous (and therefore miserable) and focused on my lack of a child or I could join with her with her feelings of anticipation of new life.  It turned out that I was just a little bit pregnant when my mother told me about my cousin; but I didn’t know it then.

To this day, I continue to work on myself and the negative feelings about others accomplishments that I have.  My feelings can change from sad to happy by making this switch.  It is often not easy to do but it changes my outlook on life.  It is just like realizing that being angry after the person or thing that has hurt you is out of your life is futile.  We are brothers and sisters in God‘s eyes at least and when one of us succeeds, we should be happy for him or her.  It helps us more than it helps them.

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