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Pride and Competition

In our society, some people have become so competitive that they feel that they have to win every time they think they are in a contest with somebody else.  Also the more contests they can win, the better, even if it means nobody else takes home a prize.  Sometimes this happens at wedding and baby showers.  When is enough, enough?

The challenge is accompanied by both excitement and anxiety and the competitor feels that he or she has to win at any cost even if he or she doesn’t need the prize that is being offered.  Often the person “needs” to win so badly that he or she will cheat or trick someone else in the competition to make him or her fail.  Also he or she may have so many awards and trophies at home that he or she is running out of space in which to put them.

What is a happy medium between healthy competition and run away greed?  Maybe it is when a person has  done his or her personal best irregardless of whether or not he or she won or lost.  It also may be when a person decides to give someone else a chance and exits out of an annual prize winning contest and becomes the past champion and lets someone else take this year’s honor.

Contest Winner

Contest Winner (Photo credit: pixel8 (RCRD))

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The Jigsaw Puzzle of Life

Unfinished jigsaw puzzle screenshot - butterfl...

Unfinished jigsaw puzzle screenshot - butterfly on flowers (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You are part of the jigsaw puzzle of life.  Yes, you are only one piece, but the picture won’t be finished until your piece is in it’s place.  Do you know about that satisfying feeling that one gets when he or she completes a giant, complex picture puzzle?  Remember how hard it is to see any of the completed picture in any one piece or even in a handful of pieces.  If you didn’t have the picture on the box to help you, how would you know where to start or what piece to put with what?

We all need to help each other in order to get a complete picture as we each have a necessary part of the whole.   Our part will be missed if it isn’t there.  No wonder we don’t understand what is going on in the world when we try to figure it all out by ourselves.  We are all part of the whole that we can’t see by ourselves.

Every interaction with someone else helps us to see more of the picture that we can’t see when we are alone.  Another analogue might be that of having to use certain ingredients in certain amounts and forms to create a magnificent dish.  Each ingredient by itself might be unremarkable, even unpalatable.  Currently there is a big following of people who like bacon in many different ways even candied or covered in chocolate which sound like they might be not very good together, but they are tasty and people flock to restaurants or stands where they are created and sold.

You may not realize how important you are in the fabric of life.  If you did not exist or had been born somewhere else to someone else, important things might not have happened and the world would be changed maybe not in a good way.

If you believe God created you, wouldn’t he have had something in mind for you to do or be?  Maybe it was even required that you not know what this plan was for it to work.

Remember you are not the most worthless person in the world.  No one can be.  It is just as presumptuous to think that as it is to think that you are the most important person in the world that has ever lived.  Still we are all part of the plan and not one  of us is unnecessary.

Remember that each one of us is precious and deserves to be taken good care of.  Remember the story in the Bible of the shepherd and his sheep, how he will leave his flock to fetch the one that has gone astray.

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Are You Shoveling Somebody Else’s S–t?

Have you found yourself saying, “Why don’t you….?” and getting a”Yes, but ….” in reply?”   This scenario comes from a book called,”The Games People Play” by Erick Bernes, M. D.  The person actually doesn’t want a solution to his or her problem.  Consciously or unconsciously he or she is getting some kind of payoff by not changing.  You think that by helping your friend, you will be getting a needed boost to your self-esteem.  You are counting on that to be your payoff.  Part of the game is that nobody admits they are playing the game and that no mutually

The Games You Play

The Games You Play (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

satisfying solution is possible.  This game can be played over and over again with no successful conclusion.

The game can go even farther when you invest, not only time, but money and effort,  into this proposition.  You the helper gets mad and frustrated and the friend with the problem gets their feelings hurt when you do.

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