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Do It Yourself

Ideas about how the world works and how you can successfully function in it come about through your experiences with the world and what you have learned about it from others.  Although it can be painful and scarey to do this, thinking for yourself is the method of choice in determining what works for you.  Young people are susceptible to cults because they are seeking answers to life’s questions and cults provide them.  It seems in life that it is easier to accept someone else’s point of view especially when they seem to be very convincing because they are so sure that their answers to life’s questions are the right ones.

Life is a process and the answers that one has at one point in life might not work at another point in life.  This leads to a person having anxiety because they were initially sure that they had the right answers about life and then they find that they don’t work as well at another point in life for understanding life and making decisions about it .  Good decisions are often a do it yourself project and people benefit from being taught how to make them instead of always having it done for them.   Children should become more and more independent as they grow up unless they have a mental handicap and even then the goal of helping these special children is still that of helping them to be as independent as they are capable of being in life..

 

“Where Am I In Life?

New Life Ranch in Colcord, Oklahoma

There comes a time in everyone’s life that can make a difference.  Too often we are rushing around making a living, raising our kids or grand kids, doing household chores, and having a social life with friends, a church,  other organizations, and/or extended family.  It is time to remember what we had wanted to do with our life and make some choices about it based on our experiences with life.  It is never too early or too late to do this.

Too often we get penned in by decisions (especially when we are younger) which were made for us by somebody else.  Some we may have out grown.  We may have made choices as a young adult based on what we knew then about ourselves and life which no longer fit us based on what we know now.   Some big decisions people make  early in life are such things as marrying someone or locking themselves into a certain vocational goal which involves a long-term commitment.

Of course there are some decisions in life that are difficult or impossible to change.  Having children is one of those kind of decisions.  But now that we are living longer, we can pursue some things in life that we put off pursuing earlier in life.  Also so often we settle for something when we think we can’t get what we really want.   For example,  we take a job that we know down deep underneath is not the right fit for us because we need to make a living and/or we can’t move because of obligations.

For many of us, early in our lives, we are taught what we should think, what we should do, and often what we should feel.  If we don’t escape this influence, we may never know who we really are.  I am not encouraging you to throw out the baby with the bath water; but you should take a look at what you have been led to believe and evaluate it based on your own experiences with life.  As far as I am concerned, things that I have been taught have turned out to be both good and bad guidelines for my life.  What works for one person may or may not work for another.

 

 

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