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Stupid? Mistakes

Are you prone to making stupid mistakes?  At least that is what you call them.  There is a difference between having something turn out differently than you thought it would and going ahead and doing something because you thought it was the easy way out.  With the former, there may have been no way to predict that the misfortune would happen; but it did and now you have to live with the consequences.  Calling yourself a dumb dodo may help you find something or someone to blame the mistake on, but in reality it was just an unfortunate mistake.  Perhaps you thought that taking the interstate after a snow storm was safer than taking the highway and it wasn’t.  It happened to me.  I white knuckled it for about sixty miles while driving very slowly by semis in the ditches.  Would I have done it differently if I had known this.  Yes.  My husband was asleep at the time and we had changed drivers before entering the interstate because we thought that the driving from there on would be easier.  When he woke up and the scarey ride was over, he didn’t dare call me, “Stupid.”  Don’t do it to yourself.

Thought

Thought (Photo credits: www.mysafetysign.com)

Ah, come on, you know it when you do something you know you shouldn’t and get in trouble.  Here is another weather-related driving incident.  How about when you go down a road that has water starting to cross the road after a heavy rain and there have been high water signs out, but you go ahead and do it anyway because you don’t want to go back and find another way around.  You know you will have to retrace your steps and then use a longer route to by pass the high water to get to where you are going.  You can learn from both experiences, but you don’t have to castigate yourself in the first instance where you might legitimately do so in the second incidence.  You know who you are.  Make adjustments for your tendency to do the easy thing when to do so will cause you trouble.  For example, teenagers and even young adults are more likely to do this because the part of their brain that controls impulsive behavior and leads to making decisions that delay rewards and reinforcement in favor of longer-term goals doesn’t fully form until they are older..

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Which Helps Us Grow Better?

Parenting

Parenting (Photo credit: Leonid Mamchenkov)

Mistakes? or Successes?

Current thoughts on child-rearing encourage giving children a lot of complements.  Yes, initially when a behavior is just being established, it can be shaped by rewarding approximations to the desired end behavior.  At some point, praise can become meaningless if the performance being applauded is mediocre.  This does not prepare a child for the real world where competition is stiff and you can not hold a job and not accomplish something that justifies it.

Making mistakes can be a learning experience.  Sometimes knowing what can make something go wrong is the key to success.  For example, one may have a beautiful recipe for a cake that gets rave reviews, but it is not known what makes this recipe successful until something randomly is left out or the amount of it is reduced or  increased and it fails.  .

This is often where the breakdown occurs between generations in a family business.  The parent or grandparent is perhaps even a genius at what he or she does and has gotten where he or she is by hard work and sacrifice.  The heir can not just show up for work with little knowledge of the business and no idea of what it takes to continue the businesses’ success and grow the business because if a business doesn’t continue to grow, it will start slipping and fail.  A person learns by experiencing not only successes, but also failures.  Sometimes other employees in the family business are afraid to tell the boss’s son or daughter that he or she goofed and that if he or she keeps doing something that way it will have an adverse effect on business.

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