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Moral responsibility

The Problem with Narcissism

The problem with narcissism is it perverts a person’s sense of morals. Does being a narcissist give you free rein to create any piece of fiction you want to be true?  (This is lying by the way.)  Why does the end justify the means in this case?  Do People in business and politics lose sight of the truth when it doesn’t suit their purposes.  Why do we have to justify having power over others when it doesn’t benefit them.

Keeping Up with the Kardashians

Keeping Up with the Kardashians (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The problem with narcissism is that it is all me, me, me!  If not me, me, me; it’s you, you, you.  Everyone wants their ten minutes of fame.  Reality TV exploits this.  We exploit this by watching it instead of living our own lives.  People make a living off of becoming famous (the Kardashians) and focus on the most superficial things in life to maintain their position and popularity and thus their income.

What is important in life?  The superficial or the meaningful?  The biggest sources of information, the news, the internet, social networks, television promote the lowest forms of narcissism and eats holes in our value systems.  Being superficial and promoting selfish goals has become America‘s style of life.

me,me,mejpgAnother problem with narcissism is that we focus on it too much.  Much of the stress in this life involves promoting and supporting our own and other people’s narcissism.  The evils of business and politics seem to have their origin in narcissism.  Sometimes It is more important how much you are in the public eye than what you do and say when you are there.  When people are in the pubic eye, they do not take responsibility for what they portray.  They often seem it as an opportunity to promote their own interests rather than to make changes for the good of society as a whole.  How come we are not taught to think about how we can contribute to the lives of others and the world rather than what we only can do for ourselves and our own personal interests.

Another problem with narcissism:  Is the motto of many such people, take all you can get and leave little or nothing for anybody else.  As we rise in life in terms of wealth and power, do we use it for only our own good or for the good of all.  I am not necessarily promoting a welfare state with government as our big mother or daddy.  But how about the idea that as one gets ahead in life, they will use this power to help others get ahead too.

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You Made Me Do It

Who me?   I don't think so....

Who me? I don't think so.... (Photo credit: The hills are alive)

Who me?  Take responsibility for my own actions?  If I get upset and have a meltdown, who’s going to take responsibility?  You hurt my feelings.  You made me mad!  If other people would just leave me alone.

Shovel your own biological residue.  I have not been assigned as your own personal whipping boy or girl.  Get me out of here before you explode.

Who shoulders the blame?  Does it make you uncomfortable to think you might have been a little at fault in the whole situation?

Drama queens!  Drama kings!  It is all about you.

Can you shoulder some responsibility for your actions?  If you take responsibility, then you should do something about it.

Getting upset can be a selfish action. Taking center stage away from the person who really has a problem and you can help if you weren’t so busy worrying about yourself.

Then there is the opposite side of the question.  You have a problem and somebody else could help you, but you refuse to let them.  You play martyr.  You are afraid to give up one bit of control.

Move over.  Get out of the way.  Let’s resolve the situation.  If you have to, have your pity party and get over it.  Move on.  Don’t do anymore damage than has already been done.  Control yourself.  Blow your top, but don’t take it to an extreme.

We spend more time being upset about a problem than we do solving it.  What can I do?  Oh, woe is me.  Take charge of yourself.  Let some fresh air in.  Go about it in the right way.

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