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If I am One Hundred Percent So Are You

Not So Much to Be Loved as to Love

Not So Much to Be Loved as to Love (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

How do you picture other people in your life?  Are they 100%?  If you are 100% then more then likely they are 100% too.

I was looking for a way to say that all people are equal in the Supreme Being‘s eyes and if we love ourselves, we love others too.  In find it difficult to say I love you to everybody; but I found that I could say, “You are 100%.”

My next step will be to say, “You are worthy of love.”  What motivates you in your behavior is often the fact that you don’t feel loved and you feel that you have to hurt others in retaliation for this.

What horrible things we do because we do not really love ourselves.  Think of all the not so  random shootings and vehicular violence that occurs.  We all want to be loved and accepted.

Missing the love and respect of just one parent can damage a person irrevocably and result in retalitory violence against his or her spouse and children and against the world in general.  How many people have grown up with angry parents who take their anger out on their children?

How can a parent give a child the necessary unconditional love when they did not get it themselves?  How much of a child’s behavior is motivated by a desire to be loved and accepted?  Gang membership is often used as a way to do this.

So let’s make a start and just say in our heads to everyone we meet, “You are 100%.”

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Pay It Forward, Give Love Away


Pay it forward.  Give love away to the next person (a child especially) that you see.  You make the light in my eyes shine.  I see you from across the room.  I smile and you come to me.  It is obvious that you have made my day.  How can a child live without this?  Infants imitate facial expressions.  Help raise a child even one you don’t know.  Let them know by your facial expression that he or she has made your day just by their mere presence.  Send love to a child to day.  It costs nothing.

Take the whole thing a step further.  Works with adults too.  Smile at the next person you see.  Don’t look at them suspiciously.  Christians and other spiritual people have the love of God to sustain them.  It is like the five loaves and three fishes, the more you give away, the more you have leftover for yourself.  Get down off the shelf.  Spread love and happiness around.  The more you give away, the more you get.

Since I have been practicing this, strange things have been happening.  I got a spontaneous hug the other day from someone I didn’t know but who said they knew me.  Last night a pecan pie (oh, how I love pecan pie) appeared at the door.  It was a spontaneous gift from a neighboring Mennonite family.

Little girl serving a pecan pie.

Little girl serving a pecan pie. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It doesn’t take money to pay it forward, it just takes love and a smile.  You don’t necessarily have to have an agenda.  Just try it and see what happens.  Shy? are you lacking in self-confidence?  Then just send love anonymously.  Try it on the next grumpy person that you meet.  Try it.  Light up your soul.

If you see someone having a problem, don’t make it worse.  Don’t join in with a heckling crowd.  Don’t join the crowd and express your annoyance too with a misbehaving, fractious child when an agitated parent obviously has lost control  of the situation.  If you can’t help, don’t make it worse.  Smile a look of understanding instead.  Pay it forward.  You don’t know when you might need that smile yourself.


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Here I Am, Send Me, Send Me

Send It On (song)

Send It On (song) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When you give of yourself, you give the best thing you can give.  Your time is worth a lot more than your money.  Children know this, parents know this, significant others know this.  Also those without family members who can come and see them and take them places know this.

Be fully present when you are present.  It does not count when you are multitasking at the same time.  When I have your attention, I want to have your full attention.  When you listen to me, listen to me.  When you are watching me, watch me.  Don’t be thinking about what you are going to say or do next.  We all want to be heard and seen.  Doing the former is sometimes called active listening.  Can you truthfully say that when you are having a conversation with someone, that you know what they are saying?  Can you repeat what was said to you?  You don’t have to agree with me, but at least be able to tell me what I have told you.

I am your friend; I am your family, or you may know about me because you have been touched by my plight.  Put yourself in my place.  Visit me.  Don’t forget that I exist.  Yes, you may have to go out of your way to do this.  Think of me often.  Remember you are in my thoughts too.  You may not know of the extent of the impact that you have on another when you give of yourself.or pay it forward.  Do something nice for someone you don’t know.  A waitress where I went this week, told me that a couple that comes to the restaurant that she works at often chooses another table in the restaurant and pays for their meal; thus they pay it forward.

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