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Who Cares?

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In so much of life, it appears that when the question, “Who cares?” is asked, the answer is nobody.  People who pay somebody to provide them with a service or a product are often not rewarded with more than a smidgen of concern.  Some people even think it is a privilege for the person receiving the service or the product to be able to purchase it.  Conceit is the name of the game.  Some people are even led to buy something or purchase a service because it is so hard to get.  Sometimes people wind up paying for the privilege of being able to pay for something else.   Slipping a twenty dollar bill to the head waiter to get a table in a restaurant is one example.  Scalping tickets is another example.

An extreme example is the abortion doctors who have been in the news lately for “killing” babies after they have been born alive in late term abortions.  These doctors also did not follow the Hippocratic oath in the care of many of the women who sought their services.  It seems that hypothetically playing a game of golf or getting a car repaired was more important than the health and welfare of their patients.  It seems especially clear here that these doctors could easily say, “Who cares!”

“Who cares?” about the quality of the work that they do?  Some people brag about  how they cheat others.  Some people put more time and energy in getting away with shoddy work and substandard materials than it would take to do the job right.  Some people don’t build things poorly but they don’t do what’s necessary to do a proper job like get enough sleep the night before, preparing the paperwork or studying up on and reviewing the procedure they are going to use.

If you are saying, “Who cares,” and doing the absolute minimum necessary to get the job done or perhaps not even doing what is right for the person who hires you and are working instead to get the support, monetary, or otherwise of the people who do not have the best interests of anyone other than themselves at heart even if it means you are hurting in some way the person who thinks they hired you to protect their interests.

In this modern world, some people (as long as they can get away with it) do things that are at least not in the best interest of the persons who think they are employing them to produce something or work for them.  These people often say, “Who cares?” as justification for this behavior.  They sometimes even feel that they have really accomplished something if they can get away with it.


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The Problem with Narcissism

The problem with narcissism is it perverts a person’s sense of morals. Does being a narcissist give you free rein to create any piece of fiction you want to be true?  (This is lying by the way.)  Why does the end justify the means in this case?  Do People in business and politics lose sight of the truth when it doesn’t suit their purposes.  Why do we have to justify having power over others when it doesn’t benefit them.

Keeping Up with the Kardashians

Keeping Up with the Kardashians (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The problem with narcissism is that it is all me, me, me!  If not me, me, me; it’s you, you, you.  Everyone wants their ten minutes of fame.  Reality TV exploits this.  We exploit this by watching it instead of living our own lives.  People make a living off of becoming famous (the Kardashians) and focus on the most superficial things in life to maintain their position and popularity and thus their income.

What is important in life?  The superficial or the meaningful?  The biggest sources of information, the news, the internet, social networks, television promote the lowest forms of narcissism and eats holes in our value systems.  Being superficial and promoting selfish goals has become America‘s style of life.

me,me,mejpgAnother problem with narcissism is that we focus on it too much.  Much of the stress in this life involves promoting and supporting our own and other people’s narcissism.  The evils of business and politics seem to have their origin in narcissism.  Sometimes It is more important how much you are in the public eye than what you do and say when you are there.  When people are in the pubic eye, they do not take responsibility for what they portray.  They often seem it as an opportunity to promote their own interests rather than to make changes for the good of society as a whole.  How come we are not taught to think about how we can contribute to the lives of others and the world rather than what we only can do for ourselves and our own personal interests.

Another problem with narcissism:  Is the motto of many such people, take all you can get and leave little or nothing for anybody else.  As we rise in life in terms of wealth and power, do we use it for only our own good or for the good of all.  I am not necessarily promoting a welfare state with government as our big mother or daddy.  But how about the idea that as one gets ahead in life, they will use this power to help others get ahead too.

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Being Self-Objective

It is very scarey when you realize that the people around you, especially the people in positions of power, are not being honest with themselves let alone other people.  Realistic self-confidence is healthy, but unrealistic self-confidence is dangerous not only for the person who has it but also for others.  The best source of knowledge a person can have is that of persons including him or herself who are willing and able to tell a person the truth no matter how unsettling.  People make mistakes; they make the wrong decisions; they overlook a vital necessary fact or source of information; and they are afraid to admit it because of the feared consequences.  People around this person collude with them because they fear the power and authority that person wields.  The higher up you go the more likely this is to happen.

This can happen in psychology and psychiatry when professionals are making (sometimes) life or death decisions.  One theory of psychotherapy is to help a person to be more honest with themselves and to be more open and honest about what they do and why they do it.  If the therapist can’t be a role model for the patient, he or she is either a fake and/or feels very insecure in the position that they have put themselves in.  No one is a saint and the person most likely to admit this is a person who others would call a saint.  The problem is that viewing the practice of psychology or psychiatry as a business does not promote the career of a mental health professional who develops wisdom and with it the requisite self-knowledge.  Materialism and the welding of power have been made more important than promoting the health and happiness of mankind.

In a perverse way, lack of self-confidence can promote dishonesty and deception.  People can make wrong decisions in an attempt to prove that they are the one in power.  They may have made a mistake but can or will not admit it and then it requires that they implement other equally wrong decisions to support the idea that they were right about the first decision or decisions

Confidence and Paranoia

Confidence and Paranoia (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


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Taking Responsibility

With great spending power comes great responsi...
With great spending power comes great responsibility (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

With power, there is responsibility,  It can go to your head.  This sometimes happened to Kings in the Old Testament.  They thought that they could do anything that they wanted to do and had the power to carry it out. For example, there was the King who sent the husband of a woman he coveted into battle in a position where he was very vulnerable expecting that he would killed and leave the way clear for the King to have this man’s wife.  He abused his power.     They did not obey the law, they made the laws instead.  To whom much is given, much is expected.

On the other hand, there are people who didn’t expect to be in power, but when it happened, they rose to the occasion.  Everyone needs a little bit of humility, even the greatest of persons.  One endearing quality of  many saintly persons is that they are humble.  Even Jesus did not strive to be a king on earth.

If you acquire a position of responsibility on earth and/or access to personal wealth, don’t let it go to your head.  Don’t do things just because now you have the opportunity to do them and/or want to show others that you can (and they can’t).  Power and wealth are responsibilities and because you can do more, more is expected of you.



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