Promote your own agenda. Don’t depend on somebody else to do it for you. Why is it always considered more acceptable when somebody else does something for you than if you do it for yourself? Is it because we don’t want to be seen as selfish or greedy. That leaves a lot of “cross” people out there. People who don’t get their needs met. There is also another unhappy group out there; those who are always meeting other peoples’ needs, not their own.
Meeting your own needs when you can means you don’t neglect yourself meeting other peoples’ needs and you don’t suffer from resentment because of this. Codependency is sometimes used as the name for this. This is often found in couples where one member is an alcoholic and the other one enables him or her.
I have my own truth detector, my dreams. In my dreams I am often doing what I either don’t do or try not to do in real life. My first comment in the morning when I wake up from a dream is, “Who me?” My competitivness, assertiveness, and anger come out in a big way and I am fighting the battle the whole night. No, I don’t always win in these dreams.
I am getting tired of working all day and dreaming all night. If this is the end of the world, I am trying to get it all done. Just when you think you have got yourself together, you don’t and your dreams tell you this. If I am not depressed when I go to sleep, I might be when I wake up.
Just learning that I can’t neglect my feelings and become a “goody goody two shoes” all the time. I guess that is why they call interpreting your dreams, “dream work.”
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